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Like, I don't I don't know how to do this, but we're gonna do this, and it is it's important. 1st and foremost, like, me, Beau, my kids, like, we're safe and fine. So, like, we're safe. We're fine. We eventually decided to leave town and go to Carlsbad because the air quality was so horrible. My kids couldn't go outside. And knowing that the winds were picking up again on Monday, and that has scared the s**t out of me. And I will will get into our experience throughout this episode. It's gonna be a chaotic one. It's gonna be chaotic and it's gonna be probably long. Long as f**k because I just, like, don't wanna leave anything out. But I was so scared of being in LA during the winds picking back up that we just left. So we are in San Diego. We're saving fine. We're recording right now. Like, I wanna just, like, talk about everything that happened to Los Angeles just, like, real fast first. Like, you can you don't have to not talk. Yeah. No. I'm just Yeah. Just this has been devastating. Like, this has been, for so many people, 1,000 and 1,000 tens of 1,000, tens of 1,000 of people have either lost their homes, their businesses, their places of worship, their local grocery store, their local hangout place, their their community, everything that they have ever worked for, their lives that they have spent their building, like, gone. Just everything Everything. Gone. Like, I I get so angry when I go on social media and I look at the comments and I see that there are people who are commenting, like, they're rich. It'll be okay. They're just celebrities. Who gives a f**k? They have more houses. This isn't yes. A bunch of celebrities have lost their homes. Lots of points to make here. Celebrities, do we not have empathy for people because they're famous? Do we do we are them losing everything? It's not just a home. It is every your home is your your your safe spot. It is your sanctuary. It is when you are feeling sad that it's what you have. It's where you go. It is your safety. It is things that you have collected Memories. Growing up. It is memories. It is, like, photos of your family members who have already passed that you don't have on your f**king iPhone that you're never gonna be able to look at again. Like, it's it it it's everything. Imagine, like, waking up and just having the outfit you have on. Hopefully, you packed your passport. Hopefully, you you got a passport or something or, like, want, like, something some personal item, a memento, something that you care about. But imagine now Or you have kids and there's even more. Or even more. What do you take? Your personal stuff or do you take your kids? You know, there's But you have no place to go when you don't know where you're gonna go from here. And so many of the most of the homes and most of the people that have been affected by these fires, they are not celebrities. Like, these are normal everyday hustling, working people. Like, this isn't just celebrities lost their homes. Like and most of the nice homes that you see in the Palisades, those are generational homes. Those are generational homes that have been in the family that have been passed down to people who are working that just don't have a mortgage, but they're still working to live. They now don't have anything. Same with Altadena. Same without yes. Same with Altadena. Like, this is and I know that there are tragedies everywhere. There are natural disasters everywhere. There's war. There's, like, there's so many so many different communities and people that need attention, time, help, like, care, money, all all of it. But we live in Los Angeles. We are proud citizens of Los Angeles. I f**king love Los Angeles. I love that city. I love it. And it is there is not one person in Los Angeles right now who isn't affected by it, whether they lost something or not. Everyone knows someone who has lost a home. Yeah. Like, everyone knows someone who has lost a home, and it's absolutely insane. And I just seeing, like, comments of people just being like, it's rich people. Shut the f**k up. Go do some inward work and go find just, like, a dash of humanity. A dash. Like, just just some. Like, it's it's absolutely insane, and it's just so crazy that, like, the world is going on. You know what I mean? Which, of course, it does. You know, it's almost like when a death happens and you're like, how can just, like, everyone just be going to work and then to happy hour and then doing their normal things when, like but, like, my grandmother just died. You know? Like, it it it's like that. It's like I can't believe that the world is going on because this is the biggest thing that's ever happened to to to us. To our state, to our our our people around here. You know? And, listen. I'm somebody who's been through this before. Like, I grew up in New Orleans. I was there for hurricane Katrina. I lost both my childhood homes. My parents are divorced, so I had 2. My mom's and my dad's. Like, I know what it's like to be woken up early in the morning with, like, an alarm being, like, pack whatever it is that you love love the most. We're leaving. We're getting out of town and then never having that home again. Like, we rebuilt our home, but we lost everything inside, all of the memories inside. It's like, I know what that is like. And so to this to me feels I I know what it does to a city. I know how it destroys a city for a while. It took New Orleans so many years to become even close to what it used to be. Like Wow. And this is just something that I feel like is for Los Angeles. Like, it will never be the same. But, like, now more than ever, it feels like Los Angeles pride Los Angeles pride and seeing how, like, immediately, like, immediately, so many people just, like, coming together Yeah. To help other people regardless of whether they had lost things or not. Like, seeing these firefighters, seeing these these planes and firefighters and all this help coming from Mexico, Canada, other states, like, just it has been remarkable to see. And there are times when I'm like, f**k Bo and I look at each other. We're like, we should be out doing something, but we have, like, these 2 tiny kids that school's not open. And, like, we have to take care of them. And it's like, what what can we do at this moment? And I it's just and there's this survivor's guilt that I'm feeling. I don't know if you're feeling that it's, like, wow. We are so lucky that that didn't happen. Like, we're so lucky. Look at what happened to everybody else. Like, I felt guilty blow drying my hair. Like, there are people who get who they they don't have any luxuries at all anymore. And the it is just so sad and devastating for for everyone who has lost something or lost someone or lost their community. Like, imagine your whole community just wiped out. Like, your community, you listening to this podcast episode right now, like, picture your community and your day to day life and what you do on a regular basis, the places you go, the people you see wiped out. Blocks upon blocks upon blocks. Just just done. Like so, like, right now, like, LA needs the most amount of empathy. Like, the most. Enough of this, like, they're just rich. I can't. You know, the only way I can speak on this is by by talking about what me and Beau's experience has been like over the last week, and I will go into every little detail. Like, I'll if this has to be a 4 hour episode, I don't give a s**t. Like, this it's I think it's important to hear what it's been like for me and you as 2 people who haven't lost anything because, like, it's been to us, it's been so horrible and traumatic, but we haven't lost anything. So with everything that comes out of our mouth, every every part that you hear where we feel like we are suffering internally, you know, it's like imagine though what it must be like for the for the people who actually have. Yeah. Like, for the people who even if they didn't lose something, they are displaced. They still don't know. Like, they or they're maybe they're the lucky ones that the house, you know, the random house that didn't catch on fire, they don't have a neighborhood. Yeah. Their house survived, but their community, their neighborhood It's gone. Done. You know? So yeah. So there was something that I saw on on, Instagram from, this account, this Monica Faye. She said it's like when when you lose everything and everyone's like, don't worry. You know, you're rich. You're you're you're whatever. You can you can get It's when people say, it's just stuff. At least you have your lives. It's just stuff. Don't ever say that to somebody who's just lost their home and their lives. Like, don't say it's just stuff. Like, it is so much more than stuff. So she had this she just wrote this thing down. It's like, it's the band t shirt from their first concert and the softest material they've ever felt and the closest they've ever felt through the lyrics and the sound. It's the sari that they bought on a life changing trip to India for a friend's wedding. The couch they saved for months to buy for their first, like, big adult purchase they made that made them feel like they were finally building a home, gaining independence. It's the 4 walls where they healed from heartbreak. The place they felt safe when family wasn't. Yeah. The these are photos of loved ones till they ever see again. Finish it. Okay. I don't know why this is just just Yeah. It's it's it's a lot. It's it's basically losing everything isn't just about the cost. It's about identity, memories, safety, and places in time that you can't get back. And, yes, like, rebuilding is possible, but let people go through the grief first. Let them have that space. Don't say it's just stuff. It is not just stuff. It is, like, all the things that are your personal treasures, like, your personal treasures. They don't have to be expensive. I don't mean treasures as in, like, gold in a treasure chest. It's like like our love box. Yeah. You and I's love box that I I save everything that's from the beginning of our relationship, every card, like, every little thing. And I was like, oh, this is important. Like, that's packed and in storage now because, like, again, we'll get to our experience with this, but, like, it's it's just so much more than just, like, a pretty Palisades home. You know? Like, it's just so much more than that. And at the end of this podcast, I'm gonna talk about, like, if you feel like you wanna help in some way, I'll talk about how you can do that. Like, I know, like, there are lots of different people and places that need that that need to be taken care of too. So, like, this is, like, a no pressure to, like, contribute at all. Like, I understand. And, also, like, everyone take care of make sure you're taking care of yourselves and your families first and foremost. But, you know, at the end, we'll discuss that. But now right now, I just feel like, let's just talk about what it's f**king been like. Like, for what it's been it's been a week now. Like, it's a week. Like, Tuesday Tuesday was Hartford's birthday. Yeah. Hartford's 4th birthday. And, she dressed as Elphaba to go to school, and we went to her school and brought Elphaba cookies that we had made the night before together. And right before we got to our school, we had heard, like, that a fire in the Palisades had broken out, but we couldn't have even fathomed what that meant because there are fires all the time. There are fires all the time in California, especially when there's high winds. Like, it's just and but normally, like And you think a metropolitan, like, city It happens. It's like it it'll be put out. It'll be put out. It'll be fine. So we went. We literally picked her up and took her to Universal Studios for a few hours because, like, that was what we were doing to celebrate her birthday. And, it was so windy, and we got home, and it was so windy. And I remember saying, it feels like we're in the tornado in a wizard in a was in The Wizard of Oz. Like, so on theme, Elphaba. Like, I can't even believe it. I was able to make a joke not knowing, like, not knowing what was to come. Like, we get in our house. Our house, we live up in the Hollywood Hills. It was shaking. It was so loud. It was Trees were falling apart. Trees are falling apart. It was wild. It's like that night was wild. It was wild. And then after, like, we put the kids down, we turned on the news, and, like, that's when we saw, like, holy s**t. This is getting Bigger. Bigger. This is insane. Oh my gosh. And then we got the alert that, you know, Hartford would've her school would be closed the next day. And we woke up the next morning, and I it was my morning with the kids because Beau and I alternate mornings, and Hartford came upstairs and was like, I wanna watch Wiccan. I'm like, no. We're watching the news. And this is I think this is, like, something important to talk about. I had never thought before having kids or even up until now, these 4 years of having kids, how I would what I would say during a natural disaster or something? Like, am I gonna be the parent that lies to them and shields them from everything so that they can be oblivious, ignorant, and happy? Or am I going to tell them the truth and have them be scared? I feel like I would lie to them, especially at this age. Well, I hadn't thought about it. Yeah. We you and I had never had that You just put it in my mind, and my first instinct was to lie. Obviously, if she was 8, I would be telling her. Well, that was one of the things you and I have never discussed is, like, what are we gonna do as parents together as, like, a united front? We've never talked about that. That that's on us. But I woke up when she came up that morning. I'm like, we're not watching Wicked. Like and this was the moment that I'm like, I have a choice right now to either put on Wicked Or put on and lie to LA and watch the news. Or put and I'm like, I'm sorry. Like, I I made the decision in that moment. I was like, Hartford, so many kids don't have homes anymore. I was like, we need to watch this right now. Oh, you did. Yes. Oh, I didn't know. I was just so I don't I don't know if I made the right decision or not, but it was a quick one where I was just like, so many families have lost their homes. We have to watch this right now. Not only should we watch it so that we can honor them, like, give them that the attention that they deserve, which I'm like, I know your brain is not understanding that right now. And I was like, but we also need to just watch the news to make sure that we stay safe. And she saw on the news the fires, and I'm like, did I just do the wrong thing? Did I just do the wrong thing? But too late now, No turning back. And so we watched well, no. Like, she didn't watch all day long, but we spent that whole day, me and Beau, just watching the news, crying, worrying, phone blowing up, checking in on everyone, people checking in on us. Like, that I feel like that first Wednesday was, like, kind of just, like, a scary blur. Like, I remember looking to you and being like, should we, like, pack something just in case? And you were like, nothing is near us. Nothing is near us. We were in the red zone, but all of LA County was in the red zone. So it was like I'm we're it's like the the way my brain, I shut down. So it was like I was just like, you know, there's nothing we can do right now, so let's just wait it out. It's it's far far away. You know? So it was just, like, in my brain at that time. I'm like, let's just hold down. I was on a group chat with other neighbors that have been in our, you know, Hollywood land area for 50 plus years that have gone through fires and earthquakes and everything, and I've been checking with them what are they doing, and they're staying put. So I had at least some type of security from people who've been in that neighborhood for so long. Right. I was like, let's just wait it out. We gotta see before we just, like, pack try to pack everything up and panic. You know? A lot of times, panic screws things up. You know? And in my brain at that time, I was just like, let's just wait. Well, all I did, because Beau said let's just wait, was put our passports in my purse. That's it. I'm like, save the passports. Why the passports? What is the thing because it's like you can why do they save that? Like, ident like, for your just, like, identity purposes. Like, do I here's who I am. Like, you know what I mean? I guess it's like we have drivers. I that's just one thing that I'm always like documents. Like, you can get documents. Passport is the most important document to have. So I figured, easy. Let me just go do this real fast. Yeah. Then, you know, I was on the phone with Alex Stafford, who's one of my childhood best friends, lives in LA now. She's been on my podcast a bunch of times, normally after hours, because she has a 9 to 5, so we have to record after. And, you know, she's on those, so if you wanna go back and listen. And I was on the phone with her, and I was like, this feels like Katrina. I was like, doesn't this feel like Katrina? She's like, that's literally what I've been saying. Like, it's, like, even though it's the Palisades fire and it's the Eaton fire, like, it's it and it's not around us right now, it still feels like first of all, you look outside, it's apocalyptic, and the winds had literally, yeah, blown apart all of the trees and everything, so it looked like we a tornado had just, like, gone through Our whole neighborhood. Our whole neighborhood. And it was just a feeling of, like, impending doom everywhere. It it I, like, can't fully explain it. But I was, like, talking to her, and I'm like, yeah. It feels like Katrina, but, like, I feel like it's fine. And she's like, well, I know you and Beau probably have your your cars packed. I'm like, no. Just our passports. Beau seems to think that, like, it's like, that, like, we're gonna be okay. Please don't freak me out. We hang up the phone. Then a few hours later, like, around 5 o'clock, as it was getting dark, Alex texts both me and Beau And with a photo. 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Like, that that will be me. Like, I, like, I became paralyzed yet, like, felt like I was going to have an actual heart attack. My body was physically just shaking. I couldn't even, like, pick something up. I was sobbing from fear. Like, at this point, the crying wasn't from seeing all the destruction. It was crying out of just pure fear of seeing and and knowing that because of the winds, these embers were traveling miles and Miles. Miles. And so you were living in a state of being like, it's not if even if the fire is not close to you, it doesn't matter at this point because they're popping up all over the place because the embers are traveling so far. And the fact that I can see what looks like Armageddon outside of my f**king house, that means that I we could be next. That an ember could just decide to land and be the 1, and this this house could go up in flames. And that fear was, like, I I I can't. I realized, like, I I couldn't parent. And this was all during the time when it's like we have our normal nighttime routine where it's like we feed the kids, then we go downstairs into our bedroom, and we let them have a dance sing singing party. Harper gets to pick 3 songs. Right now, it's wicked on loop, 3 of the songs on wicked. Then they have bath time, then I put Messer down. So we start frantically well, sorry. I start frantically packing, crying, shaking. Like, we need to get out. My phone is dinging, dinging, dinging, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. Everyone's saying, I hope you've evacuated. I hope you've gotten out of there. Don't be an idiot. Don't be an idiot. And meanwhile, Beau is so calm that I Let me say something too. My calmness was because I felt like we can't react like that. Because when we start panicking, I didn't want Hartford to, like, start seeing us freaking out. Well, she I bet. Yeah. I know. Well, she's one at least one of us was was somewhat calm in the sense. And but my insides, I was freaking the f**k out. But I just needed to focus because, again, it's like I need to have clarity because if something did happen. Because the the way that these embers are happening, where this fire happened at Runyon Canyon, we where we live, we were blessed to have a freeway going kind of like dividing this Runyon Canyon into the other side of the hills where, like, the Hollywood sign is. And then also we have the Hollywood reservoir. But also that night was the first time that the winds somewhat subsided towards the end of the night Mhmm. Where they were finally able to bring out helicopters. The Palisades night, the first night with, Sunday and Monday Mhmm. The winds were so bad, they couldn't get any type of air support. That was one of the main things. Yeah. So we were blessed blessed that we were able to have air support because I feel like if they did not have air support on that Runyon Canyon hillside, that things would have been massively worse than they were. Yeah. But that is also when I was like, okay. You're right. We need to pack right now. We need to get everything that we want. We pack up, put everything up front by the door. We're gonna wait out tonight. I stayed up all night, alerts on everything that had that watch app. You know? But I'm I'm I'm going I'm I'm going I'm gonna go into detail. Okay. Go. I get out every single suitcase that we have. Hartford is seeing my energy and feeling it and therefore reacting exactly the same way, screaming, crying. I like, she sees the fire outside of the house, and she's saying, I don't wanna leave our house. I don't wanna leave our house, screaming and crying. Everything that I put in a suitcase, she's pulling it back out and throwing it back out. Then Messer is seeing her freak out and so he decides to start hitting, crying, all of the things. I'm, like, like, tripping over them. I'm I'm going into I I'm, like, okay. Get their get their baby books. Get their baby books. Get our love box. f**king love box. Get our love box. Get my grandmother's, like, my grandmother's things. Anything that my grandmother has left me, like, get that. Then I, like, start and I can't focus on just one thing at one time. I'm like, then I go into Messer's room and get, like, one pair of pajamas and go into Hartford's room, get, like, she might want this Elsa dress, then go back in our room. And I'm, like, wait. I I love my jewelry. I sat there. I don't know why I just didn't take my jewelry tray and put it in the bag. I was like, what sharing do I like better? What sharing would I wanna say? What sharing it means more more to me? I'm like, I wasted Dump it. Time. Like, you when you're when you're so scared and panicked, you start doing weird f**king s**t weird s**t. I'm like, literally, it would have saved time to take the tray out and dump it in the bag I was putting them in instead of being like, do I like this tiny little aquamarine stud that my mom had or do I like this little it made no f**king sense. Yeah. Nothing made sense. The s**t I was putting in there made no sense. Then I was like, if I'm gonna take a coat, it should, I guess, be the most expensive one. I I I didn't know. There was no besides, like, making sure the kids had their, like, baby books and, like, those things and my grandmother's stuff and our love box, like, everything else, I was just the panic was just it it was so overwhelming. The fear was so overwhelming. And so then it got to a point where I'm like, okay. It is actually their bed. It it's messer's bedtime. So, like, we either can sit in this panic. Like, we can either be doing this or, like or it'd be going on all night long. Like, we we don't know if we're gonna have to evacuate. We don't know if it's gonna get to us or we act normal. We decide to act normal, do the damn thing, And then if we have to evacuate, wake them up. And so having to try to calm down and stop crying and also the only way to get Hartford in the bath because she was crying because she didn't wanna leave our house. I said, if we leave town tomorrow, I was like, this is just a what if. Like, if we leave town tomorrow, it's because we're going to Disneyland. It's because we're going to Disneyland. Like, got her in the bath, didn't fully calm her down. Like, I was trying to come up with anything to just make this feel I'm like, I have to just get them in the bath so I can get mess her to sleep. Like, giving that bath is, like, a tattoo on my soul at this point. Like, physically shaking and holding back all of my, like, tears and crying and everything, and I'm just wanting to scream. And they're fighting each other in the bath and seeing a fire outside of the window at the same time and trying to parent them was f**king nuts. It was absolutely Yeah. Nuts. And then to calmly be like, okay, messer. I want do you want your your giza? That's what he calls his blankie. That's what they my kids call it blankie. Your chuchos or pacifier, whatever. And to rock him to sleep and, like, try and, like, calm my energy enough to get him to go to sleep and and be loving and sweet and nurturing knowing that and it sounded like war outside because the helicopters were just Taking up the water next to us. Yeah. So it was like it sounded like war outside. And I'm, like, sitting there in the darkness of his nursery crying, trying to just be calm, but it's, like, silently crying while it sounds like there's war outside and knowing there's this fire. And I'm like, what is life? Like, what what is Yeah. The helicopters are so low because we're on the same type of level of of where they have to fly over to get to the reservoir that it was literally like shaking the house. And I'm I don't mean like a little shake. I'm talking about the whole home. Our whole home was vibrating helicopter after helicopter. You're seeing the smoke. You're seeing the light. It's dark now. So you see the you see the the the flames. You get to a a little higher altitude where, like, not altitude, but you walk up just like 2 two two houses from where we're at. You can see the flames are just it's massive. It's so close. You you you smell it in the air. It was that night was wild. It was one of the scariest things that I've ever felt and experienced too And when all that was going on. Imagine the people who had 10 minutes notice. Like, there were some people down there. That literally well, no. People who've lost their homes. Oh, yeah. Alright. Like, some of them had, like, 10 minutes notice to just get their stuff and get out. 2 of my friends, when I asked them I didn't realize. I just thought they were in an evacuation zone. And when I in with them a couple days later, they're like, no. It's it's, it's gone. I'm like, did you have time? And they're like, we didn't. Like, that's insane. So Messer finally goes down. Hartford goes down, and Beau's like it becomes apparently obvious that, like, we both have 2 very different ways of Stress. Being Dealing with fear. Yeah. Dealing with fear and and in a situation like this where, like, I was just so frustrated that you weren't matching my energy or, like or I felt I was like, how are you not feeling what I'm feeling? And I just couldn't understand how you stay so calm. And then I felt like I was letting you down by being so Well, so we could it was probably you know, who knows how to deal with this type of trauma? It's like we started arguing with each other, and and I was just trying to calm you down, and that probably wasn't helping as well. And I told you how I was feeling, and I told you that it's it's I feel like how you feel on the inside, but I'm just trying to put my keep my head afloat and focus just in case if something does happen. Like, I have tunnel vision, and we're we're gone. Because I feel like when you do stress out, when you do freak out, which is obviously a natural reaction to to be like that, it still doesn't help. So I was at least just trying to be calm calm, but I was scared. I was scared, and I I do, you know, apologize for apologize. I'm just saying, like, it it it it was interest it's interesting because we've never been in that situation together before. Yeah. You know? And just to see how different we reacted, and you just kept saying, you have been watching the news all day. You need to turn it off. You need to turn it off. And I'm like, I will not turn it off. And then the second I went into the other room to watch more news, a studio city fire. And I watched it live. Like, the news reporters didn't even know what they were reporting on. They were like, wait. We're getting images here. I I'm sorry. We'll go back to that. We don't even know what that is yet. Then I see a and then I'm in real time seeing a Studio City fire. And I'm like, where the The Studio City fire is basically on the other side of the hill from where the Runyon Cannon fire happened on a house, which was just freaked us out even more because we're like It's a random house. It's a random house. Now we're spiraling, and I'm spiraling too. Like, this is this an arsonist? Is this like we don't know how because the the wind did die down enough where there's air support, but then your brain just goes. And you know how the news lets you, you know, freaks you out as much as possible, which is why I was trying to say it's not healthy. Like, it's not healthy to to keep watching this, but then my brain started spiraling from these two houses that got burned down. What what this? What if this? And they're and the news is just, you know, feeding all the negativity, feeding all the fear. It's it's wild because it's like, that's what brings in the viewer. That's you know? It's Yeah. But it's also spreading information we need to know. That's why we're watching the news. Yes. I understand. But then it got to the point where it's like, okay. Do we even go to sleep? Do we go to sleep? I'm like, I I feel like I can't sleep right now because, like, everything that's going on. But then if we don't sleep and we have to evacuate in the middle of the night, how or in the morning, how are we gonna function? And so we made the decision, like, we're going to sleep. Beau's gonna, like, half sleep. I slept upstairs that night just to make sure, didn't I? No. No. You were done with me. Okay. But, like, you had your alerts on, like, loud and all that stuff. And so after that night, we woke up the next morning, and I'm I was just like, I I and I feel bad even saying, like, I will never be the same because I didn't lose anything. But I've just never, at any point in my life, experienced fear like that before. Like, I I just I haven't. This is my first time. Fear of possibilities because we just saw what happened to Altadena, the surrounding areas, Pasadena, and we live literally in the we're still in the red zone. Yeah. Our home right now is still has been in the red zone. We've been so close to the evacuation notices. Our hillside is is literally, like what do they call it? Like, a a cinder? Like, it could go up in any second. Right. Let's not give anyone any ideas right now. Let's just not put it out there. That's the fear because it's like But, yes, that was the fear. It can yes. The feelings that you were feeling are valid. And and also, I I kept thinking, like, okay. If this is arsonists like, if I was an arsonist, I'd go straight for the Hollywood sign. If I was trying to make an arsonist point, I would go for the most iconic LA thing there is. So I'm like, we're we if it's not an ember, like, if it's an ember that doesn't get us and if it's an arsonist, they're going for the Hollywood side. Like, that's all I kept thinking. All I kept thinking. Well, that's the one awful thing about this whole, one of the awful things about this whole thing is the amount of false false, media, the false of things that you read online. Yeah. I mean, some someone sent Poor Sonia. Someone sent the AI version the AI thing of the Hollywood sign on fire, and it looked so to so it looks so real except that there was there was 2 d's in the in the the the image. Oh, I didn't notice that. But, no, Sonya was so scared. Sonya is our nanny, and she was like, I saw that I saw people posting this on Facebook and I couldn't believe that you didn't text me. And so I had to, like, go searching for everything and I realized that it wasn't real. And people are just, like, sharing fake things. And I was like, oh my god. I can't believe she had to experience that for her. Like Yeah. Lots of misinformation. Anyway, okay. Let me gather my thoughts. We wake up Thursday morning, and it's it's a day. It's it's like so you had the scariest moment. The sunset fire was done. It was taken care of. Like but, like, there is no, like, resting easy because random fires keep popping out up in different places. And on top of that, the whole city of Los Angeles was accidentally getting evacuation alerts to their phones. I couldn't even I spent Thursday just repacking things, like or, like, really going through the house being, like, okay. Like, the sunset fires out, but you never f**king know a new new ones keep popping up. Now I'm going to repack, like, what I already frantically packed last night and, like, scan the whole house a 1000000 times and look at each thing and be, like, can I do do I wanna take you with me? Do I wanna take you with me? Do I wanna take you with me? Like and just redoing all of that. And so to feel like, oh, well, like, it's kind of calm right now. It's daylight and it's calm. I'm just gonna calmly repack and then to get those evacuation alerts to your phone. I Not only that. What what was even more frustrating that 22 minutes later, then we got the text. Just kidding. No. It's not a text though. No. It was the alert. But it's I I It's the alert. Yeah. It's the alert that everyone gets on their iPhones. The the the, you know, the the emergency service, like, nationals, the letter. Everyone gets it to me turn it on. Later, it's like, sorry. Oopsies. Pressed the wrong button. That was for another county. So almost everyone in LA at the same time almost had a heart attack because it's one thing to get that alert when you're expecting it because you're like, okay. It's coming into our zone. It's we're And we're close to it. We're close to it. But to get it out of nowhere when you think you're safe, I my first thought was, like, did a random fire just start next door that I just just now, and we have to get the f**k out? Like, that's that's what I thought. In 22 minutes, that's a long f**king time to to, like, let you people know. And they said it it wasn't, a human error. They said it was it was something of the system. Who who knows? Who knows? But the fact that it kept going on, it wasn't just a one and done. No. It wasn't one and done. It was a it happened multiple times. We were watching the news, a press conference with the mayor and all these other people. No joke. Everyone on the everyone beep beep beep beep beep beep beep beep beep. And and I'm we're getting it too. And there's not and then I'm on the the the watch app of the fire, and there's there's nothing around any everything's the same right now of the fires is insane. It's insane. Yeah. The the so much f**king fear. I feel it's like you're that stressed out for 30 seconds, but you still have no idea. 22 f**king minutes for that first one? Well, I turned on the news again. Well, no. I just looked glanced over at the same time that it was happening. So, like, I fully had a heart attack and then looked at the news and saw that theirs were beeping, and I'm like, what is happening? And then they're like, wait. Hold on. I'm getting news that, like, this was an accident. I'm like, this can't be real. Like, this this actually, like, can't be real. Like, how do you accidentally do this? How do you accidentally put that? There should be one button. One to send out an evacuation notice to the right people. Like, there shouldn't there shouldn't how do I don't understand how that just, like, accidentally just goes out to the wrong people multiple times. Like so it if I'm just trying to paint a picture of, like, every single day since Tuesday has just been it looks like Armageddon outside. You can't breathe the air because it is just it's the air quality is insane. You are scared because you are get even if you're not in a evacuation zone or you're near a fire, you're still getting evacuation notices that make you feel like a new fire just popped up right next to you. The surrounding cities around the fires that weren't affected are affected because they can't drink the water because that's Oh, I had to yell at I had to yell at the kids because Hartford was trying to drink the water, and I was like, there's smoke in the water. Because we didn't know? I was like, there's smoke in the water. I I couldn't keep my I I haven't been able to keep my cool. Like, I've I've lost it a few times. Like, I'm I'm norm I feel like I'm normally a very patient parent. It's actually, like, a a parenting gift I feel like I have. I have lost it a few times on them because it is the anxiety has it hasn't it doesn't stop. And, like, with every day, then Thursday, the sun started setting again, and then a new fire had popped up somewhere else. And we were texting with our neighbors, and I'm like, the only way I can describe how I feel right now is, like, I am in that show from or a horror movie where the whether it's, like, vampires or zombies or whatever, they only come out at night. So it's what I imagine, like, those characters are living through every day being, like, it's the daytime. It's the daytime, but you live dreading the night. That's how I've felt every day. I've, like, I dread dusk. I dread the sun coming down because I feel like that's when bad things keep popping up or keep happening. And my neighbors were like, oh my god. Yes. That is literally ex exactly what it feels like. And that's what it has been just, like, on repeat. And then, like, your kids are home. They're not in school. Friday and it's like it was supposed to be Hartford's birthday party this past weekend. Obviously, we didn't do that this weekend, but we had Rob and my sister coming in town. I told Georgie to stay back. Rob still came, and we spent, like, Friday Saturday, like, honoring the house. Like, I'll I'll I'll do I I feel like I'm skipping the house. I'm just gonna Like, I'll I'll I'll do I I feel like I'm skipping around a little bit. Do you have anything more to add to Thursday before I go into Friday? To be honest, it's like everything is just It is kind of I shut down a lot. Like, I feel like I was I know. Going on all all night. I felt like I didn't have a partner in this even though you were still I was present. I was doing everything, but, like, my brain I had no one to talk to. I know, and I didn't know what to say because there was nothing that we could say. Like, and I had so much to say. I didn't. I didn't because it's like I didn't wanna start freaking out. And so my thing was to just basically shut down. Shut down all of emotions and just be it's it's fight or flight. I was and I was on I was on fight mode in a sense. So all the other things that go with that, I was just ready to go. I packed nothing. I think I I took 3 jackets that I care about, and I, you know, went down to, like, my collectible star and I'm like, f**k it. f**k it. f**k it. f**k it. I don't I don't care anything. Like, the stuff that we have right now in the hotel, it's I looked I opened it up. It was the 1st night. It was the it was the sunset fire, the running Canyon fire that I packed. I packed, like, one pair of Vans to drive and and then and, like, boots just in case if there was a fire that, like, my shoes wouldn't burn if we had to walk through embers. Mhmm. You know? So it's like I I I didn't have anything. No. Like, I packed I packed nothing. Like, there's there's I have nothing that that I really care about. Like like, there are lots of things, but not nothing in that moment because I shut everything down. So everything that, like, I thought would be that I would think it like, if this something like, what would you do? What would you take? You know, you'd realize, oh, I take this. I had I don't remember. I hadn't I don't remember. Everything was clouded. Thursday, I know it was no it was like school was canceled for the whole week, and then I'm just sitting there thinking about looking at the ash on the car being like, well, we can't take the kids out. What are we gonna do? Waiting, waiting, waiting. More fear. Talking with the other neighbors. What if this? What if this? What if this? You know? Try not to watch the news. Shout out to WatchDuty, the best app ever. Yeah. 2 things I became a master of over this last week, weather. I've never watched so many weather reports and the WatchDuty app that monitors the fires and evacuation areas, like, holy s**t. Oh, Thursday is when I went on my my Instagram tirade of of my, you know, of just of everything going on. Yeah. I've also realized, like, in a moment of crisis, like, I don't know how to social media. Like, I again, it's like I the only way I can describe this is, like, it was like a feeling of being, like, paralyzed. Like, I'm like, I can't I don't know how to navigate this. Like, I I don't know how to post about this. I don't know how to I I couldn't do it. Like, I've just, like, posted once to be, like, we're fine. You know what I mean? We're safe. Like, for everyone like, because people were do you have any means? So many people has have texted me that I have not responded to, like, 88% of the people who have texted me. I'm sorry. I'm one of those that I'm just like, I see your your text or your DM, and, like, it's so appreciated, but, like, I can't be I'm glued to the news. Like, I'm I'm glued to the news and taking care of my kids and, like, that's it. And and trying not to spiral and trying to just, like, mentally survive. You know? Yeah. But Thursday is when because Lo and Alex evacuated Wednesday because they could see I don't think like, this sunset fire was it it was a game changer. It was because that the heart of of Los Angeles of, like, Hollywood and all of that, like, everyone could see it. Like and it was so terrifying. And so terrifying. And so everyone was just like, get out. Get out. Which also doesn't help when you get so many text messages from people being like, I hope that you've have already evacuated. Don't be stupid. And I'm like, but we're not in the evacuation zone. Like, don't do that to me right now. Like, I'm doing the best that I can. Don't send me messages like that. Like, I'm I'm obviously, I'm not sitting here in a cave. I'm like, we're we're paying attention. But then Thursday, again, rolls around, and Alex and Lo were coming back. They had gone down to San Diego, and they were like, do you want us to come over? And I was like, oh, it's gonna be right at Messer's bedtime that might, like, just, like, ruin the like, he might not end up wanting to go to sleep, blah blah. And Bo's like, no. Yeah. You need to have people here. And I'm like, yeah. I need to have friends here so that I can, like, try and laugh about something normal. Do you know what I mean? Or, like, smile or just, like, anything that isn't sitting in this, like, hole of fear and sadness and anxiety. Yeah. And so they came by for a while, and, you know, we made a pizza and talked and whatever, and it was actually great for my anxiety. But then it's like Friday rolled around, and that's oh, and I I had already decided. I was, like, I've been watching the weather now so f**king religiously that I I know that the winds are gonna pick up Monday. I know that we live in the hills. So whenever there's high winds, be on alert. Be scared. Be f**king afraid. And I'm like, I wanna leave. I wanna leave. Like, we've stayed as long as we can. Our kids can't even go outside. They've been cooped up in this house. Like, we need to figure out a place to go. And, Beau, you were like, I don't want to. You're like, I want to I wanted to send you guys. Hilarious. Yeah. Hilarious. I know. I look at no. Just I had the thing of I had friends that were in Pasadena that were, you know, retrofitting their home with with, like, Wi Fi timers with sprinklers on them in case because they were so close to the fire that, you know, they sent me, like, full on instructions on how to get garden hose with, like, an Alexa app thing to turn on your the timer to start your sprinklers on by your house, hose down your house, hose down the side. Make sure that, you know, if you have a tree that's close, it's dying. Like, cut down the branches. Like, they're like, everyone, like, sending me stuff. So I was just like, I by myself, I can get out. I could take my Jeep. I can do something. I can run down the I I like, I'm going to stay just in case something does happen that at least at the last second, I could get out, but at least I could afford like, do something for our home. Protect it. No. Like, I appreciate that mentality. My mind. That was my mind. But, like But it Hilarious. I know. I know. And when I said this to him, I was like, so let's just say we got an evacuation notice right now, an alert right now. You think you're putting me and the kids and our dogs and everything in the car and sending us on our way, like, without you? That is let's think this one through again. Yep. Let's think it through. So Beau eventually agreed. No. I agreed instantly. No. It wasn't. No. Logan attest. Okay. Took a long time for you to be like, okay. Fine. We'll we'll go. But we'll go Sunday. So I'm like, fine. We'll stay here Saturday, and we'll go Sunday. And that's why we made the decision that we were gonna drive down to Carlsbad because I just didn't want just knowing that the winds were picking up, then I'm like, this this could pop up and happen again. And mind you, all the fires are still going in the other places. So, like, I just I I can't do it. I can't parent. I can't function. If I hear an emergency evacuation alert on my phone one more time, I might not I don't send me to a loony bin because I don't I I can't do this anymore. Like, I I I fully can't. And that's when we had made the decision. Okay. We are gonna go Sunday. Compromise marriage. Am I right? And then Friday night, Rob came in, and we were like, you're just gonna have to come with us to Carlsbad. And then we see that the Palisades were that fire was now getting into It was going over the hill and going over into Encino. It's all of our friends at Encino. It's like, oh my gosh. Bradley and Dustin just bought their dream home. Literally, they've been saving for years to buy a dream home their dream home. They just bought it and moved in last week, last f**king week, and they had to evacuate. Watching your friends Yeah. Edwin and Teddy and all of them, like, having like, their home was on the news. Like, we're watching the news, and it's like, that's that's That's Edwin's house. Their house. That is that is their house, not on fire. But, like, they're showing it that, like, these people need to leave look at the fire on the other side of it. Like, I'm like, this keeps going. This this won't stop. And I thought I was like, you know what? Like, there will be, there will be an hour of this week that I will not watch the news, and I will take time for myself and think of and and do something that will calm my nerves, and that was the Outlander finale. I get settled. Friday. You're like, I'm fine. Rob is here. You go for an hour and just like, don't look at your phone. Don't do anything. Just enjoy your Outlander finale. Was it on? No, It wasn't. It's on. They skipped a week. They skipped a f**king week. So I sat there fully freaking out back on the news, back on fire TikTok. I even called Chris, my psychic. I called Chris Medina, and I was like, listen. I I I know it's late. I I need help. 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Like and I, Saturday, Lo and Alex came back over so that we could all just be together and just try and, like, keep the kids laughing, letting them watch whatever movies that they wanna watch. And I talked to the house. I literally would just go and talk to walls of the house and tell them tell it that I love you. You've been there for me through so much. You have literally been my comfort. You have please be strong. Like, I don't know if that's psychotic or or smart or normal or, like, actually locked me up insane. Well, I think we've talked about on good, the bad, the baby where I where I sit there and I touch the house. Yeah. And because it's so old and there's so much life to it still, you know, and and there's a a presence. You know? I'm not a I'm not one of those, like, hippie guys or anything, but there is There's something something about the home. I'm sure everyone thinks that about their own home. Yeah. You know? But it's that's just, like, how we feel about it. It's, like, it's a very special it it's, yeah, to us. And I even was like, I wanna, like, spend time alone in the living room and just, like, bless it. Not that I can bless anything. I can't. But, like, bless it with my heart. Bless it with my mind. Bless it. Like, I'm like, I have to remember to do that, but, like, the kids are always around. And then by the time we put the kids down, I've we I forget or whatever. And it did not help that, like, 2 nights in a row, Hartford woke up in the middle of the night with, like, crazy nosebleeds that made her look like Carrie coming through our bedroom in the middle of the night 2 nights in a row. And then on that Friday night when I was, like, looking into signs, I was, like, looking into signs. I was like, I've had deja vu 3 times today. That has to mean something. That has to mean something. Whether that means something good or bad, I have no f**king idea. And then all of a sudden, I was looking at the baby monitor right after I realized Outlander wasn't on and I see Hartford is having a nightmare. And I go into her room and I'm like, Hartford, it's okay. And she's like, no. I want the smoke, which meant she didn't want the smoke, but she was, like, just, like, not wording it correctly. And she's like, I don't want the smoke. I don't want the smoke. And I was like, oh my god. Is this a sign, or is this, like, I should never have told her about the fire and, like, now this is just, like, in her brain Right. And her cute, adorable, little 4 year old brain, and she's just, like, having nightmares about smoke, like, insane. It was just all insane. I mean, kids pick up on stuff like that. So I'm sure with all the stress that we were having, whether it was, like, me holding it in or you, you know, being very outer on it, I feel like Yeah. She just didn't know how to process a lot of that stuff. And, also, like, what I'm talking about right now, every single citizen of Los Angeles has the exact same story. They are literally everyone check on your friends in Los Angeles. This isn't a me and Bo thing. This is every single person in Los Angeles is experiencing exactly what we have been feeling and experiencing. Like, that's just the picture I'm trying to paint right now. As someone who hasn't lost anything, we've the whole entire city has felt all of these emotions and feelings the whole entire time, like, all of us. Anyway, Saturday, we loved the f**k out of the house. We filled it with love, filled it with laughter, filled it with we watch Now and Then, Wicked, of course, you know, things that made us feel good. We thought about putting on What? We thought about putting on 2012. Oh, right. Because I lean into themes. I mean, you put on outbreak and that other Contagion movie during COVID. So If you're gonna do it, let's do it. But then I realized that's not a kid friendly movie. So we bought it and then turned it off and woke up the next morning and got all of our stuff packed and left for Carlsbad. And that morning, I've just, like, said so many just in case, so many goodbyes to that house. I scanned everything again. Like, I looked at I looked down at, like, the and I you had went to the storage unit. Like, I made Bogle take my wedding dress to the storage unit. Go take important things that, like, we don't need to take with us to Carlsbad. Like, it's gonna take up too much space. Thank God. Like, Hartford's big baby box with, like, so much stuff in it. Like, that's in the storage unit. But I was looking around. I was like, there's so much stuff here that I love that, like, I can't take I can't take you with me. I looked at the bookshelf and I saw the little, like, urn that you proposed to me doing that you put the ring in. And I'm like, you know what? If anything happens to this house, I bet you you'll survive, urn. Like, I I could see that being the last thing standing. Like, this like, it it looked tough. You know? I looked at my Ashley Longshore painting, and I'm like, that was the first big purchase I ever made for myself when I I made enough money to make a big purchase. And I'm like, I can't take you with me, but I'll love you forever. Like, just all of these things that it was crazy to leave, and then it's just been when we got to Carlsbad, am I skipping anything for you? No. It just says not nothing. It's like it's it's what listening to this just make me like, you were talking about, oh, bringing the painting inside. Wanted you to bring all your paintings, and you're like, I don't care. Yeah. I just I I don't know. I feel like I feel like towards the end, there was still that fear, but I was I think this past weekend, I was just praying so much that, like, like I just got some like like heavenly security and calmness that I felt like nothing was gonna happen. So I felt scared, but there was just something that came over that it was just Is it because I told you that I thought it was gonna be okay? You didn't say it was gonna be okay. When? Friday night, right before I called my psychic, I took you to the side, and I said, Beau, I don't know why I'm feeling this way, but I feel like our house will be fine. I don't think feel like things are gonna be fine, but I feel like our house is gonna be fine. I don't remember that. Oh, no. It was just Yeah. Yeah. I don't know. It's just I think because it's like I bottled up so much talking about it now, like, a lot of the scaries are coming out, but it's it was a super scary week, and we didn't experience anything. We didn't experience anything. Yeah. And I just try to put my mind of losing everything with all these other people that have gone through so much. Yeah. And it's a lot. And my heart goes out, and I feel so much for them, and I wanna do so much. Yeah. It's like when we can get back them back in the school, it's like I want to go out and Yeah. Help, you know? But just packing up, it's like I'd, you know, my my Jeep. I didn't I didn't care. I could have moved it. I just I don't know what it was. I just it was just like, I don't I don't know. I feel like I don't have it, like, that many attachments to belongings. I do. I've I feel the opposite. Yeah. Like, I I felt like I had to say goodbye to I had to go personally say goodbye to everything that existed that exists in our home. Like, I kept reminding myself, like, I don't need to take framed photos. I don't need to take photo albums. It's online. I made it on Shutterfly. Stupid b***h. Don't pack this f**king photo album. Like, I like, so many things, little knickknacks that, like, we've gotten, like, travel places. You know what I kept thinking the whole time? Thank god I put all my Christmas ornaments in storage. All of the ones that my grandma made, all the ones that we've collected from traveling and with our family, like, and with our kids. Like, I'm like, thank f**king god they're in storage. And then I thought, what if the storage unit catches on fire? I'm like, where s**t. Then Lowe's like, you can take something to my house. It's like, what if you're I know the fear. There's no I'm like, there's no place safe right now. Like, things are just happening everywhere. And that is just yeah. No. I am somebody who's deeply attached to the things in my home. Photo I took was our original the only first photo that we took together, that was a Polaroid. Yeah. No. I saw it on our hotel bed's nightstand, and I I was like, that is the sweetest thing ever. I didn't even think to do that. That is so I mean, I thought about our love box, so I took our love box, like, points. But, like, that was really sweet. Yeah. It's you know, I did realize I'm not attached to my shoes. I didn't take I didn't care. I was like, take them. Take them. My purses, take them. Like, take them. I was looking down at, like, my mango returns that I had to make in disgust. I'm, like, disgusted with myself, and I was just, like, why am I buying stupid s**t? I don't need that. I don't need that. And I'm like, I can't believe you're taking up space in this precious home that I made this decision to buy these ill fitting fast fashion pants that, like, I'm gonna have to return. You're taking up space in this precious, beautiful home that's filled with so much love and memories and things that actually matter. Like, no. No more. Take my take all my take my all all my bedazzled heels. I don't give a f**k. Like, just give me my things that my grandma had. Give me my baby my kids' baby books, our love box, and, like, let's get out of here, and I'll say goodbye to everything. It was just yeah. I mean, at this point, it's like, I'm rambling. We are safe. We are fine. Monday happened. Tuesday happened. The winds are now dying down. Everything for our neighborhood has been fine, but that's not the case for other people. And this is just so f**king devastating for everyone that it did affect. Like, it is it's it's like I keep seeing these, like, things pop up on Instagram, and it's, like, it's twice the size of the city of Manhattan in New York. That's how much Yeah. Land. Granite Manhattan is packed with skyscrapers, so it's, like, a little different. But, like, that's how much land and, like, just so many structures, so many homes, so many businesses, so many just communities, like, done. Okay. So I I think now is just the time to, like if you've stayed along on this whole episode, god bless you. This was a journey, and I hope I didn't ruin your day. But if you feel inspired to help, again, no f**king pressure. I know there, like, there are so many places all over the world that need help. So, like but if you feel like you are you are wanting to help Californians, evacuees, people who have lost their homes in some ways, like, we've donated monetarily, but I feel like from here now, like, we're going back home tomorrow. It's, like, how do we donate our time? Like, how do we, like, donate our time? But there are organizations that you can donate to to, like and, like, shout out to all the people that, like, right away just, like, got together and donated clothing, like, kids toys, things for pets, like, food, just, like, all of that and their services and just, like, everything. Now it's, like, people have clothes. Like, what people actually need is they need money. They, like, they do. I'm gonna list a few charities. There's baby to baby. They focus mainly on babies, toddlers, families. There's the animal wellness foundation. There's Pasadena Humane Society, Altadena Girls. This was started by an 8th grader, Avery. Like, that's seriously? That's amazing. That's amazing. A f**king 8th grader. That's wild. That's yes. There's Giving Generously. There's World Central Kitchen, California Fire Foundation that provides emotional and financial assistance to families of fallen firefighters and firefighters in the communities that they protect. And there's so much more, and, like, I'll be making updates when when you listen next week. And if you wanna help, here's how you can. People do need help. They need help. Yeah. Thank you guys for listening. This was f**king hard and weird to do, and I didn't know if I was, like if we were gonna be able to do it because it's, like, how do you organize your thoughts? How do you even talk I I don't even feel like everything that we said, it it's it's not enough. It's like it's not enough. It's so much more than anything that we just said, and this was just our experience as as 2 people that didn't lose anything. Imagine the people that lost everything. Yeah. I love you. Stay f**king safe, everyone. Just stay safe. And you know what? Like, not me. Never thought I would say this. Stay empathetic. Maybe it's time for us all to be empaths. I take back everything I said previously about empaths. We need more of them. Okay. Bye. Pluto TV is the place for movie fans like me. And TV fans like me. They've got something for everyone, and it's totally free. You can binge laugh out loud sitcoms like Frasier. And rewatch cult classics like Higher Learning. Whether you're in the mood to solve a little crime before bedtime with NCIS or Tracker. Or curl up with a surefire hit like Forrest Gump. Run, Forrest. Pluto TV has thousands of movies and shows all for free. Pluto TV. Stream now, pay never.
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