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All right, we are back. I'm Jessica Hall and I'm Heather Rae Young. We have Jasmine Destine coming in, longtime friend of both of ours. Yeah. She is an actress, model, influencer, content creator. You name it. What I love about her is she's going to get into the dating world. She's going to talk about it. She's going to just be free about it because I'm really curious. Being in a relationship as long as I have, I have questions about these apps and how people hit you up on social media, how people slide into your split into your DMs or whatever the lingo is right into the DMs. Yeah, all these dating apps, I've never done them. You didn't do them clearly because you are happily married. I hope. I hope you never did them. I don't even think the internet existed, but I feel that old right now. This episode, I want to get into Heather's favorite topic dating app Sexy a*s Sex First and dating. We are going to answer those questions that we I know I get a few questions just about relationship, but sex bias. And here's the deal. I I it's an opinion. I'm not educated in the matter, but I can definitely give my no filter, whatever I'm about to say. Type of explanation. I mean, you're very rare in L.A. you've been with Kyle for how many years? You know what? This is one thing we're going to stop doing on the show aging ourselves. It's not aging, though. It's just saying how amazing it is that you've been in a relationship in L.A. for that long. Yeah. Kyle have something special, and a lot of people don't have that. So I'm interested to see how it's lasted so long for you guys. I need tips and tricks on Are we talking about sex or relationship relationships? Oh yeah, right, exactly. I want to know what you're doing to keep him happy or vice versa. All right. Yeah. We're also going to get into our social media moment. I don't know if you've heard anything crazy so far on your social media this week, but I've had some, not as many dick pics as I had last week, which is a good thing. But I still can't believe that people actually some, though, do you think it's actually their dicks that they're sending or do you think they just Google something and send like a Google picture? You know, I try to stay in contact with people that follow me. I appreciate anyone that supports me. So when I won't go into my DMs and I choose to open up a picture that someone sends and it's kind of blurred. So I get the tap on it, guys. Just listen, it's just not. It's 20 20. You're never going to get pictures of your dude park. It's like, I don't care to open that. And thankfully, most of the time I do this now I open it up and like a private place because I can't be out in public schools, you name it. And I'm like, you know, I had fun in the beginning, and I think that was more my bad is I'd be like, Oh yeah, it looks great. I know you did. It doubles again. It's about a seven, just like kidding with them because I thought, like, Oh, I know how to embarrass them. But then I finally got like, Hey, dudes, OK, this is crossing the line. Like, This is not cool, it's not attractive. I don't want to do that. Thank goodness I don't really see them, but I don't want to see it. I really don't. It's not going to make you think goes on in their mind. They're like, I'm going to go to this person and I'm going to send them a picture of my man parts. What do they seriously expect back? What do they want from me? I guess, Jessica, they're hoping that you text them back and say, Let's meet up right now and have some fun. I mean, that is their thing. What their motive is. Why else would they do this? I don't know. What would their motivation be behind it? That's what I've been trying to say. I don't think they want to marry you, honey. I think they want to, like, meet up and have some fun. People do that. I don't know if people do that, right? So this is great because this kind of really maybe she might tell us what she thinks. Yes. And I love she's been an open book since I've known her back in the day when she on my radio show years ago, she was hysterical, just so honest upfront. And I just think a lot of people will appreciate that. I mean, there's a lot of people in her same boat with the dating world in 2020. I can only imagine, but either I would be a big w***e or I would just stay in my house all day. I don't know. I don't know what I would do just because I I mean, like you said, I've been in a relationship for almost 16 17 years. I know you're not missing out, though. I don't feel like I'm missing. There's absolutely no FOMO. And what? So I think Jasmine of Holly tell you you're not missing out. But I'm just curious because I do have a lot of girlfriends that are single that, you know, girlfriends are married with kids and now divorced and they are back in there. They're back in the jungle. It is a jungle out there and it's tough, but I want to give some sort of advice that I can. Yeah, I don't want to just sit there and be like, Oh, I don't know. No, I want to be like, You know, I heard this, I want to jump in the conversations. I'd be able to help. My main advice quickly is hold out, do not settle, wait for that soulmate and wait for that someone special because I think things end because people don't wait. They just want to get married and have that dream and have that fantasy and and be a wife or whatever it is like, don't settle. Yeah, wait for it because true love is out there because she's such a romantic girl. Come on, you've known me for how long I'm a hopeless romantic. I always believed in true love, and I finally found it. So I'm like, I. Tell my girlfriend it's out there. Just wait, don't settle. Be happy and it's going to end. It will come. All right. All right. We'll spread that love. Spread the love to Jack and guy. Yeah, yes, OK. Without further ado, let's introduce our second guess that we have here on our podcast. Jasmine Destine Hello. Hello. Well, thanks. Just a little background on Jasmine. Jasmine and I first met playing lingerie football. No, I loved it. Tell the story because this is back. I was. We are both same age, so we're like 19 twigs taking any little thing I need to do. My God, you still are. And so are you. No, I get it. But you're I mean, she's always been like this. I know I've always been like, What the hell does she do? She's so it mean chips over there. And you see, that's where I don't even I don't want to hear about her. Like you said jabs. We're cool. You know what? I have to say that when we first did laundry football, we I love the fact that we thought we weren't like, we didn't look good. We didn't do this. I don't know about you, but I pulled out my laundry football, but not good girlfriend. I was like, Damn, it is like the size of a children. Yeah, I don't think my hand would fit in the underwear that we had to wait. You still have your outfit? Yeah, yeah. It's just it just kind of let it go. And why did you not wear it today? Because it would fit on my arm? Well, you could have brought it. I would love to see you for sure. You'd look hot. Maybe I did. Mine is so small. Like, I didn't realize how small my boobs were. There was so I had no boobs at that time. No, I didn't have boobs. L.A. where they came from. Yeah, I was like when I hit 30, and all of a sudden it was like, You have a boob job like no hit. That is funny about Jasmine. Yes, the second this girl here, 30 years old. My friends are hitting me up. Yeah, I got boobs. I don't know my guy. Friends are hitting me up and being like, Do just she hasn't got a boob job. And I was like, Oh my god, you guys can feel them. Nobu, 30. Oh God. I'm not kidding forward. I've known her since she was 19. I'm thirty two. I've passed that up my minor. Well, I mean, I bought, Yeah, you've got yourself a good girlfriend. I knew I was buying my boobs at 14 years old. Seriously, I saved up my whole senior year and I'm like, I'm getting my boobs. That's all I want. I'm doing it. You had goals even at such a young age. You know what? My goals boob job. I wanted to be a Playboy Playmate or a Dallas cowboy cheerleader. Well, look at you and you have your boobs on to the next. OK? Not only did Johnson, I play lingerie football. Sorry, there's more to as people come on actress model. She's done some of the biggest campaigns in the world now. Yes, that's what happens when you're single. Guys have more freedoms. I look at her and I go, I ask her to do something, Hey, guess what? You know, we're going to this Vegas night saying, Oh my gosh, I just got back from Cabo Bahamas, Tahiti, this camera. Oh, I can't wait to do this one night away. Lucky girl, she got babies at home. Oh man, you have a lot, Jasmine. Don't say that. Speaking of, she just got home at three a.m. this morning. No, no, no. Three a.m. Like, just like an hour ago. Oh, I'm sorry. It started at 3:30 p.m. Wait, what did what? OK, so did I finally got on a dating app? I I so I joined Raya. OK, one two douchebags and I never went on the dates. I just sometimes you're laying in bed and just kind of scroll through, but never date. OK, joined Hinge like a month ago because everyone's like, Oh, just join it. I didn't go on a dates made excuses why I couldn't. So this guy, I've made excuses, I think, for like six or seven times yesterday. He's like, Hey, I'm back in town. f**k all right. But I can't possibly think of one more excuse as to why was she going out? I've thought of everything, and now I'm just being an a*****e. Well, two days later, we went out two days ago, and yesterday we went for three o'clock for drinks and I got home like 10:00 this morning. So you spent the night out or, you know, I hotel because he lives in St Camino. He lives in San Clemente, guys and knows we didn't have sex. I already asked her that before she got in. Did you do anything else sexual? No, I mean, I slept naked. Oh, and you do have, I know, and that's not like me. Did he do? I know. Yeah. But you know, that's not me. I'm not a dater for one. I she doesn't hate dating. She that's not a sexual predator, you know? Yeah. Hey, whoa. Wait a second. Wait a second. I love it. You brought that up because I think you found out ten years ago that she was asexual. Maybe. Wait a second excuse. I need to hear more than you hear 30 and a no. It's true. So did you sell your sex drive one up when you? Sure, absolutely. But before Jasmine was husband? Yeah. Well, maybe that's where it went wrong. I was going to say, I mean, I knew you when you're married and then you went through your divorce, and so you didn't. You didn't enjoy marriage. So it wasn't a huge sex. What about oral, though? That's sexual? Yeah. Yeah, my man. So Jasmine, wasn't she? So we were talking one day on my drugs for it, and you try to find like sex drugs? Yes. So I was like, I gave her Kama Sutra, but I gave her all like this because she kind of had this epiphany on radio ten years ago. We're sitting there just talking about this night and then I think. My co-host of the day was like, you're asexual and then Jasmine's like, OK, OK, OK. But she was like, OK, all right. But you're open about it, which is cool. She's always been. What about masturbation, did you? I got a s**tload of vibrators, girlfriends, but you like that, though, so you like to orgasm. You just like doing it with yourself? I guess. OK, cool. Heather, you learned so much here today. I love this. I never knew this, but I've known Jasmine. I know. Twenty one. That was when I was younger. I mean, like, but when you hit 30, I think as things change, there is a sexual peak. Absolutely for women, especially when you hit the age of 30 and you need to get different 100 percent. So now you're single, which is not a good thing to be sexual on me. Now she spend the night with someone until three a.m. getting naked, having. You know, I was the second to you. Come on now you fart naked and I did my best guess what standards are high? John's very shortly, but we have a lot of room. You got to tease them a little and then next time, then the next day, so we hold up. So he did plan a trip to Costa Rica, too. Oh, were you drunk? Of course. OK. So he has a house in Costa Rica. But what about the place? I guess you bought the plane to? No, you do it. Yes, I did. I did it. Yes. Oh, OK. I have to breathe. So let's just cut back. OK, so the date? Listen to this one. She got married practically on the second day. You said, Yeah, we moved. It's true. We're not talking about Heather right now. Back to Jasmine. Jasmine, hold up. You went on this date at three p.m. yesterday. Yes. Got off today. An hour ago. Pretty much. So hold up. You guys are smelling the alcohol just coming out of my I'm. I'm not done. She's drinking away. Oh, and she's drinking. So. So I want to cut to you. Wake up in his bed naked. You know, now you're sober. Drinks totally fine. We snuggled for like an hour and I didn't want to go to bed was great with several naked in bed. So we're on a first date. Yep. Did you did a second date? Well, I was on the day before you talking while you're cuddling or like, what was it by you? Reminisce about the night that you don't remember? Yeah, there was definitely some moments that I do not remember. Oh, Jaz, I have to know more. Oh, I need to find out more to my laughter. OK, OK. Cut to that, too. Did you feel his area? I didn't have area. I mean, what do you call it now that he didn't sleep naked? No, I didn't. OK. So what was he wearing? Just boxers. OK, OK, OK, OK. Most men don't sleep naked, do they? I don't know. I will. It's wrong. I naked. I don't know. When I get drunk, I just sleep naked. I don't normally. But if I'm drunk, I sleep naked. I don't know. So like, did you wake up and be like, weird, my clothes go? Or did you realize like, Oh, I remember doing that? No, I don't remember. And are you wearing the same clothes you wore? So I went home and showered guys. She's got a little something for you. I swear she would tell me if she had sex with that. Oh, you would tell I would. I know. I know. OK. Yeah. Don't hold back here. Oh no. So, OK, you met this guy through Hinge. Through Hinge, and Hinge is a dating app. It's a dating app for just what every. I mean, there's everybody. There's athletes on there. There's I've seen some celebrities on there. He's an attorney. He's a lawyer and a surfer. OK, yeah. Do you swipe or how does this work and how did you first go check it out? I kind of need to see. Let's look it up. Yeah. Who contacted? Who first messaged me first? You say, OK, here we go, guys. So here's so I hinge dating app. If you would like to advertise on our show, we're here. We are great miracles to find a miracle. This is the longest I've ever been single. And Jasmine is now becoming sexual because of him. Hey, no, go. Just you can just x or you can heart. So is this a guy you want on a date? No, no, no, no. Show us him. Show us the guy. Dude, you got ready to show up. Hold up. This is a little mean, so it shows a guy cute guy. So I could be like, OK, or X or X. They don't know that. They don't know. Don't know, though that would be wrong for Jasmine. Don't get mad, but I must say her. No, I did not kill anybody who you're hurting. I want to see what you're Oh, she's cute. Like a puppy dog. Oh, come on now. All right now, I need a man. Here's the deal If I was on a dating app, I'd probably just feel bad for every one of you. And that's the thing, too. Yeah, you don't wanna do that. OK, but they don't know. You just exit out of them. Exactly. Oh, OK, OK. But so this one guy, you heard of him. He started me and then, yeah, you started conversation. And like I said, I literally was supposed to go out with him eight times. I'm not exaggerating. Like the first time I liked it. Yeah, too. I like that. And I was like, God, there's no way he's ever going to text me again. He did, and I was like, f**k, I got nothing else to do a final goodbye for drinks. And then. And it was fun. I'm proud of you. Jasmine has been very kind of standoffish of men lately. Oh yeah, it's a scary world out there. Well, I found a great one. Just introduced me to him. OK, now you're going to bring that up and you're going to tell me, Josko, why don't you? Um, you know, actually, Heather could probably give you some insight on this. He has a kid. OK. Yeah, he's got three, this one out three. Oh, there you go. So but the first one did, too. The one that she really, really liked, and he was even shocked that she liked him. He was like, Oh my gosh, that girl. She's stunning. She what does she want with me? That's like literally what he thought. So I don't know what went wrong, but you were friends with him. Well, I never really technically introduced them. It was more of their the same plays, same time, and she showed interest, and Jasmine doesn't show interest in anyone. So I was like, Oh my gosh, are you serious? And then when I said it to him, he's like, Oh, you're kidding? Like, because he was like, She's way out of my league. And that's what happened. And then they got each other's numbers. So that's all I did. OK, and then she found her way. But was there a date or what? We've hung out for the last four months and then it goes off, then goes on and then I get it. Finally, OK, I'm going to get on some dates and then I get a text message from him like, Oh, I miss you with her face and picture of him, this little girl, I'm like, Dude, come on, man. Yeah, that's messing with her head in my head, and I'm getting a little annoyed as a friend, but I don't know when I should step in or if I should at all. All right. Well, last night's date were good. I think we were clear that this look at this glowing. Maybe the alcohol coming in by the. She is. I didn't even have sex. Yeah, I love it that you know that I know. But she knows I'm actually I might have. I woke up naked, but I don't know what I did. You know what? I'm really glad that I started this episode as the sex relationship episode. Today we have Jasmine Justin in studio, who is just such an open book, and I love the fact that you are talking all about this because there's a lot of people out there that can relate. Coming off a divorce, you know, maybe you were different in your twenties and you made this perfect point about hitting 30 and your needs, your sexual needs, your relationship needs everything kind of change. So now it's like it's a whole new world of dating. It's not just that, you know, not fine. Plus, I think like, I keep hearing that. Yeah, and I've heard it from a lot of my single girlfriends and my girlfriends. And same with Jasmine. Beautiful, intelligent, smart, fun. And they can't find a good man. So is it the men? They're all because it's not my friends, it's not my patients. They are. Yeah, because I look at her and I'm like, You're such. I mean, not I'm not just like to your own hard and I'm not drunk. But yeah, she she she looks good. She loves kids. She's a nice man. She's like, not asexual anymore. No, she's got things going for me. She's a w***e. Not like guys, guys, come on where you got men. All right. You know what? It makes me. I just want to shake. I don't get it. I honestly, though, I say this, that all these men that you've been dating, you've been like, you know, you're at least are getting yourself out there. That's the first stat. Yeah, but these are filler men until you find your soul mate. So just have fun. Enjoy conversation, like make friends with people like that. Exactly. That's why I feel so many girls put pressure on like this dating world and like dating. And it just have fun. And if you never talk to the guy again, you never talk to him again. But at least you got yourself out there. Just have fun. Yeah. OK, we're talking about the good stuff here now, but I want to know about some of the horrible dates that you went on because of these apps or someone that set you up like just tell me about an awful first date. I guys, this is only my second one on the day. No, it's not. Yes, it is. OK, so we're not being wait and oh god, wait. I don't know. Maybe I shouldn't say you kind of told me about that. Is our WhatsApp. You called it right, right? Right. Yeah, right. Yeah, yeah. And what for me and what one can I just say? Yeah, just say it. Like what? I don't remember, it was the guy that you have now like, Oh God, oh god. Oh yeah, in a stretch limo, he picked me up in his Rolls-Royce. Oh, OK, see, I already like guys. I live in frickin Sherman Oaks, so like that already ghetto as all hell. You know that blowing up in my neighborhood, like they're going like phantom, whatever. And he has his driver come out and like, he is like, literally like a little bar in the back of this like Rolls Royce. So far, so good. Yeah. But he was super douchey. He was super douchey. And he was like, I think he was like, like later 40s, but still trying to dress like he was in his 20s. You don't like the spiky hair. So we get Laker tickets for seats, and he was just like one of those guys that had me on the TV the whole time, like, Oh, God was, where's the screen? Where's the screen like? It was awful. And then he got so drunk he passed out on the drive back to the House. So we're joking. Oh no, it was no joke. And after that, I did not. That was OK. That was my one date that I went on. I was like, I'm never doing this ever again. And so that was diagnosed six months ago. Oh, that was the only one she did through that app. And she was like, No, for me. And then he was trying to show me a photo on the way there to the Lakers game, and it was just all naked chicks. Oh yeah. Scrolling through his phone and not trying to hide them or anything, just scrolling through trying to find them like naked chick nick chick boobs. I was like, What else? So in that moment, do you call him out or do you just let it go? Yeah, I decided. I don't think you could call him out being that it is a first date because you don't really have ownership of him yet. You know, I knew it wasn't going anywhere after this date. So just whatever. Yeah. But like, that's the first sign of a guy that I would never speak to again. Like, if you are, if you're trying to show me something and there's a bunch of chicks all over your phone, naked girls, that's not someone that I want to be hanging out with. So like, I probably would call him out because then I'd be like, just turn around because I'm actually not interested at this point. Jasmine felt that way. She was like, What do I do? Because she told me about it because I didn't know whether to like, I wouldn't know what to do, either. You do. I feel bad. I have such a I'll be like, how I go and eat, and that's what I do. But like at this point in our lives, we're in our 30s. We have no time to waste. Like, why would you want to spend any more time with someone that like grosses you out like that? Like, I would be like, honestly, like, I'm like, It's not being a b***h. It's just kind of like, you know, standing your ground and be like, OK, you know what? I'm over there, girls turn around. What do you owe him? What do you owe the man? Nothing. Heather is completely right. But in this way, it's you have to OK. Again, I have no. I act like, I'm like this dating coach. But you kind of have to put yourself out there, maybe to go on these bad days to realize, OK, that's not for me. That's not the kind of guy I wanted. There are girls that probably just walked down that, ooh, white phantom. What is it called phantom phantom. And all he did was talk about his money, and that is his private jet that goes to Burning Man. He's showing me with a hold up. He has a Burning Man. Yeah, which was kind of cool. I like the I like hippies. I'm OK. I'm a hippie. We already know that I want to frolic in Raleigh. Can the grass be a free spirit? So that's why, except fly in on your private plane. OK with that or in your phantom, you know? Well, there is. If there's a built in bar, though, you might just kind of got me up. I must say, though, our first day he picked me up in our Sprinter Van, which is ours now, but he's picked me up in a sprinter van and had champagne on ice and I thought that I loved it. Yes, but he was also very real and deep. It wasn't like a douchey thing. It was like we connected it right away about real thing. So it wasn't like trying to flash me douchey. It was just it was a really nice gesture. But so I don't know. Totally. I mean, it got me, but it wasn't that that got me. It got like a real nice got me. I got a Chevy Silverado pickup truck and. Oh yeah. Yeah. Cause, yeah, I only dated a little bit before and some of the dates I went on. I just remember again, this is way before the ABS. This is just like friends setting up or just meeting guys out and about. And I remember going on one date with this guy and he the first verse turn off was when he took his gun out of his mouth and stick it underneath the table in the restaurant. Yes. And I was like, OK, this is right now. This is not this. This is going anywhere. And it was the smallest little thing that turned me off. But it still was just, of course, disrespectful, of course. Oh, gross. And then he just kept going on and on. And so I went to the bathroom and paid the bill because I didn't want to owe this guy anything. So I was like, Dude, I'm going to pay the bill. It's going to come because I'm like, Oh my gosh, things, I'm never calling you back. But in my mind, I knew of many things. You're so nice. I just I couldn't. Oh, I know back in the day I would have, like, stayed on too long of a date or put myself in those situations. But now I tell my girlfriends, Just just don't just leave leave because I don't know if I'd have the balls to do, like leave him at dinner, like sitting there. I mean, you could. I mean, don't just get up and leave, but be like, you know, I'm just not feeling this and my time is precious. So by I'd rather go home and watch a movie and take my makeup off. I mean. I, yeah, I would probably just be like, all right, let's let's just have some drinks. We're going to hang out, but this will never happen again because like, give me some more take away. Yeah, here is I'll get through it in a set amount. Yeah. But yeah, it's yeah, I don't know if I would have the balls to do that. But you know what? I say that because I don't, I never had to. Now, at this point in your life, you might. Yeah, because I found myself a little bit more meaner. Yeah, I'm poor, Kyle. No, not with him, but just with like weight. Like you just said wasting your time wasting. I can not waste my time. Time is precious. Like, we definitely covered Jasmine. OK, social media minute. Heather and I, we like to bring that up because we do live in a day and age now where people can say and do whatever they want. Post comments, you name it. What is the most awkward or WTS moment that you received on a comment or DM on Instagram? I was the dick pics you get to, too, but then it's like, Oh, how many kids on mine know? It's weird? Yeah, that's weird. But yeah, what the heck? Like, I don't want to see it's not cute. So, OK, let me ask you this. Heather's jealous. I want to thank God. I don't get them. I mean, I don't open things up. Oh, you're like, Oh yeah, you're smart. And plus, like, yeah, you weren't rude. So I don't even open things anymore. But that's why I was going to say, So why do you open them, though? I don't know. OK, I know if it's blurred, I'm like an a*s from somebody in, like a weird country. I'm like, Oh, well, you know what? That is, OK? You know, I've gotten smarter, but a lot of people business inquiries come through DMs on social media as well. So sometimes I do like, Oh, what is this? Or they'll send me a photo if they see, like the other day I was featured on like Party City, which I shouldn't have been, by the way. So it was nice to know that they're using my image, but them. So they sent me that, but it was a blurred image. If I didn't tap it or whatever, I would have seen it. So I do like to respond to people and I like to, you know, be involved and engage. But no, I obviously probably should like look at their profile photo before I over this blurred image. Yeah, yeah. So Jessica and I were wondering, why do people send dick pics? Like, What is the what are they getting out of it? I mean, they're not flying to India to go suck your penis to you if you're not. So what do you expect in here? Yeah, that's A.. Yeah. Why are they sending? I mean, do they expect you to be like, Oh yes, let's go like, have sex now? Or like, what? What is the purpose of a dick pic? Yea, I'm still trying to figure that out. Yeah, because it's never, you know, and it's never been next. Also, like, do they want this re-insurance from us? Are we supposed to say, Oh, good job copying animoji? I don't know. Or be like, Oh, that's so hot and heavy and send something back. Maybe that's, oh, we're on to something they want the like. We're idiots, guys. They want something bad. They want the sexting thing, and they don't want to pay for it. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, they're hoping for a little naughty photo, but interesting. They get nailed. She did. I love you and we couldn't. We couldn't figure it out. Wow. That's why people use Snapchat for apparently what it's like sending like nude photos back and forth. You know, a lot of the young kids these days do that because I know like my neighbor, my neighbor. And she said in front of her mom, That was so weird at Thanksgiving. It was, but I don't think she quite understood it. So it was, ah yeah, I'm even real uncomfortable. She was how old, and she was like, Yeah, sixteen. Yeah, underage. Yeah, she's your age. And we were playing a game and she had to like, what would? Oh, the last time you sent a nude selfie? No, it was inserted in front of her mom. Yes, it was like yesterday I was like, Whoa, you know, the best part was it was actually hilarious because it said it was one of those like truth or dare type of games. And most of us were grown ups at this moment. And this little girl, she's amazing, but she's very young. And so one of the cards said, last time you gave a nude selfie blowjob, oh, that one too. Yeah, she got all the cards. It was like a ball, and I was like, Oh my gosh, that did not go to you right now. And she goes, Oh, I got one December or something like that. We're like, Wait, you got away. She was like, she didn't quite understand what it meant or that she gave one instead of getting one because she thought she got it. Wait, I. I'm a little confused right now. It was like, what did she think? It was too young for one, and she said it in front of her mom. And I was like, Yeah, it made us feel real awkward. I'm not going to lie. Awkward all around. I was like sweating. I was like, Is she really saying this right now? Oh, I would. But then she kept getting the same cards over and over again. I'm like, Ooh. But she was getting all the good ones. I was hoping the other ones would get like that, you know? Yeah. So next year old that was getting next time. No truth or dare with 16 year old ladies. Let's keep it P.G. Yeah. Yeah. So let's let's not do underage games with. Yeah. Moving on, guys, because it's kind of dark here. We're grown adults. We can definitely talk about our sex relationship. Yes, we can. So, jazz, jazz, jazz, let's talk about your best flashback of your 20s. Oh God. And it doesn't have to be with me. I still love you. Well, I was gonna say, I mean, what about my bachelorette party toes? I got so sick. Alcohol poisoning would make it. I didn't make it. I was throwing up all. I tried to go to dinner and I threw up in the trashcan on the way through because she did. Wait, you have been to Vegas. I assume we're. Drinking in the day, and Jasmine, she she excels in day drinking, she's like, really, really good at it. Oh yeah, she's really, really good at day drinking. Not a big nighttime drinker, but everyone bought their tickets before too like Thunder Down Under. So I didn't know what to do because we have, like eight of her friends and the brides out, make it in. They already pre-paid their tickets from lies on the bathroom floor. But she had some that flew in, so I was like, Do I still take? I was in the wedding and I said, Do we still take the girls? Do we leave her? Like, How do we now? How do we do this? Because she was just bad? She was done like there was no, oh yeah. There was no bed. It was bathroom floor. Yeah. Slept on the bathroom floor for a day and a half. Yeah. At her bachelorette party. Yeah. So what did you do? Did you go to Thunder Down Under? We did. Of course, I want to say you can't. You have to still go home. It was like, Yeah. Type of like, What do we do? What do we do? But have you ever been to one of those maelstrom shows I did for a bachelorette party in Vegas? Yeah, I mean, you didn't even send me photos, so that was you're not allowed to. Oh yeah, I was kind of sad. I got nothin. Oh, you're not allowed to take photos, but they take one big group one and they sell it to you for like 50 bucks. Yeah, I do that at the end of my Group one sell. It's like you can't go to a strip club and take photos, obviously. So they want. So yeah. You kept that on all these years. Thank you. We never sent you photos of your backyard party. I was like, What am I missing guys? I throw up 27 times for two days. I feel I got those male dance things or whatever that they're they're more comedic, right? Like then it's like funny. It's not like we're sitting there turned on. It's funny now. Yeah, it's like they're dancing in their little outfits. There's nothing sexy about guys with construction boots and like high socks. And then just there, you know they no, that's not sexy. First of all, when they are more clean shaven than I am, then I'm like, Oh gosh, I'm like doing something wrong in my life because they're taking that long to man's cape themselves. Like, it's not hot now, huh? Yeah. Well, how did you meet them? Okay. How did we even get on the subject? Your twenties? Twenty. Oh, so Jasmine, Flashback of the 20s is your bachelor party that you never made? Yes, pretty much. I mean, that was fun, though. We had a blast. It was a blast. The pool was fantastic. I'm divorced now, so maybe. But, you know, speaking up because we both knew you. I mean, we still know you now, but I knew you. When you're married, you and you're married, you then you're at your wedding party. Are you still friendly with your ex-husband? Yeah. Okay, yeah, we're still on good terms at. Yeah, yeah, yeah, OK. But but you probably learned a lot from that time in your life and you bring that into now your life and what you want for your future. And so what are some tips from going through a divorce and now? Yeah, being single and dating? And what was the biggest thing you've learned from a divorce? Don't settle for one if you're not 100 percent happy and then don't change for somebody, that's a big, huge thing. I felt like I was. I was trying to mold myself into what he wanted. He needed like a nine to five nurse. I was. He did. He really did you? You did that. For the most part, you were good. Yeah, but you know, I'm a model and actress. So if he comes home at 4:00 from work or five o'clock and I'm splm-io, closing bonbons like doesn't mean I didn't work for you. And I just, you know, yeah, you want him to be supportive? Absolutely. Yeah, I'm not. If I'm not getting up every morning like you are at seven o'clock and coming home at five and my dress coming from an office doesn't mean I didn't work. Living in L.A. is so different. And I think that's kind of hard for a lot of people out there to understand that he wasn't from here, which she doesn't have to be. Hardly anyone is from here, but I mean, you are doing great now. You are waking up from a date that you barely remember you. The plus side is you're going to Costa Rica. Oh, I love it. The tickets are bought like it's done and we're gone. When are you going to just get married out there? Just do it. Look at me this hopeless romantic over here. She's in two days and she already moved in. So she's yeah. Well, we decided to be. We're like a rare breed, though we knew we were soulmates from like the first moment we met each other. So but yeah, we're rare. Nope, most people don't do what we did, but hey, go do a fine go for it. Don't hold back. Yeah. Well, Jasmine may be that way, too. She just doesn't remember. I mean, the first time I got engaged was after a month with Travis, so that was after a month. Yeah, he proposed after a month. So the same kind of thing. Yeah, but we stayed together six years. Yeah, you did. That's impressive. Yeah, yeah, I mean, it can happen. So I love this jasmine, where I mean, these listeners probably want so much more of you. Please tell them where they can find you. You guys had to follow her Instagram page because Jasmine is one of the best content creators out there. Go ahead and give your Instagram handle and whatever else you'd like to. Everything is just Jasmine Dustin, my name, J. Simone, even on Hinge guys go to. She is on Hinge and Raya are still active on Raya Jasmine. Nobody's got a little party for me, so we're just on Hinge right now. Yeah, guys, when you're bored, you just like, scroll through. You know, I used to do that on my brother in law's. Oh my God, that it was like two hours in. I was like, This is kind of, yeah. So I would help him find girls. Oh, we were just, yeah, yeah. Doesn't did it with me. It was it was like, Oh, you don't connect with this person moving on, like then it was like mile radius of this and then I was like, OK, this is getting a little like stalker ish. This is weird, but you know, way more about you or me. I love it. All right, Jasmine, thank you so much for joining us here today. We're going to take a quick break and we'll be right back. I'm Jessica Hall. Sorry, I'm Heather Rae Young. Heather, how much do you love Jasmine? I love her so much like, honestly, her her vibe. She's fine. Like, I just I love the stories that we get to hear from her. But that is what it's like in the dating world right now. We just got a little taste of dating apps and dating in your 30s, and I still think she may not be telling us the full truth about waking up naked because she doesn't remember him. Maybe, though, she's waiting till date three to give him the goods. She just wanted to show him a little bit. Maybe what's out there right now? Heather, you're so smart. I'm so that is exactly what she was doing, teasing a little. Just, I mean, that's what you got to do in this day and age, right? Oh my gosh. I just want to give her some words of advice, but I really don't have any. I think I think she's figuring it out on her own. She'll do fine. But I do love the fact she talked about, you know, asexual being asexual. She did, though, like, I love that she's so open because I didn't know that about her and I felt like the more open, the better. Like, Let's let girl talk, have fun. And I love hearing that. And now she's finding her sexual peak. And I think it's awesome. I mean, I wonder if she said to him, we should have asked her, Does she say, OK, no sex like, I'm not sleeping with you? Or I wonder if they just went for it and laid the I mean, I don't know. I just like this. You got a Costa Rica trip out of it. Right? You said, smart girl. Well, there's there's a next day and it ends up in Costa Rica. So I'm not going to say there is going to be some penetration if that's what we're calling it now. I mean, it's a lot of good effort on his part. So if that's what he's looking for, going on a trip, they're going to be by the beautiful water. They're going to be drinking. I mean, it could be the next thing, the penetration. So the penetration. So calling it that, heather, it's a little strange. Well, you did say sex earlier is oral, but no, it's not. It's different. Wait, what did I say? I was like, Oh, but did you guys do oral? You have like the last sex, but it's Oh, did I? Yeah. Gosh, I can't remember. Ten minutes ago I played this hard seltzer, you know? OK, so you know, great episode about sex relationship. I feel like we gave people nothing, just more experiences because we are basically telling ourselves that Jasmine's lying to us. Everyone's probably thinking the same thing. She's naked in bed. She's in a hotel. He has his boxers on. They booked a trip to Costa Rica and the day ended a few hours ago. Hmm. Mm hmm. I mean, maybe they're they had chemistry and they're soulmates and like, I don't know. But if I had his number or his henge account, I would reach out to him right now. Why don't you get her phone? The I'm sure you know her passcode do, actually. I know. Look at her. She's she's still here. We can technically dress. Oh my gosh, they're asking. Yeah. Maybe crossing the line because she's actually happy about this guy. She's had such a tough time dating. I mean, it is tough. Like, it's definitely just dating in your 30s alone. You know, from everything the dating apps being divorced, it's not like, I'm happy to see that she's actually dating because she's stopped there for a long time. Well, yeah, getting back to like being real. Like, I mean, we said before so many of our girlfriends who are just beautiful, smart, like sweet, kind girls, they can't find a man and it's actually very sad. Like they get they get lonely. And you date these like a*****es over and over and you start losing hope that there's someone out there for you. And yeah, I see a lot of my girlfriends going through it and and it's sad. I don't really know what to tell them at this point because it happens over and over and over. So what is the secret? I don't think anyone's going to ever know. Yeah, I'm just glad that she moved on from being asexual now, liking sex again. Yeah. So we're or at is here. Yeah. And she's actually getting herself out there. That's a bigger place. So have fun, Jasmine. Enjoy it. Go to Costa Rica, have sex if you want to and just have fun. And I want to open this up to anyone that is listening. If you guys want to direct messages, my Instagram is at. I am Jessica Hall. If there's something that you would like to discuss or maybe just a relationship question, not that we have the answers, strictly opinions not educated in the matter, but hey, let's talk about it. Let's hear a conversation about it. Absolutely. Mine's Heather Rae. Young Rae is crazy, and I would love to hear from you guys as well. And we have some tips and tricks and just from our own experiences, so DMs. So other, what is the worst date you've ever been on? I discussed mine. It wasn't a worst date. It was just a bad date. So do you have a bad worse? I know you have to have lot worse. I mean, I've had, well, I did. I was briefly dating this guy. I'd say, like six seven weeks, which is kind of I mean, let's date a long time in this day and age. And I mean, we were going on day dates. We are hiking together. We are going to get smoothie. If I wasn't just like nighttime drinking, we never drank together. He'd face time me every day. We text all throughout the day. He was like traveling the world. He was very successful, came across as like the sweetest kind of guy. Found out through the grapevine he was going back and forth from Houston to L.A., had a girlfriend of four years in Houston and back and forth. Yeah, but he had business out there to his business. And then he had a house in the hills. So I had no clue because like someone showing me giving me a lot of their time, I was thinking it was going somewhere. And then I found out he had this check that he'd been seeing for four years. And how do you get away with that with the social media, though? Now that's what I mean. He's a sociopath. But he really was like, That's it. He's completely crazy because he was treating me like, we are like full time dating, never mentioned her, never talked about her, never hinted towards anything. And then I find out full blown relationship in four years. Yeah. Did she contact you or how did you find out? I found out through another girlfriend who dated him for like three years ago and same thing. So she found out he had this girlfriend, and then she put it, she saw us out together and she's like, You know, he has a girlfriend of four years, and then I have friends in Houston that knew him. Neither girlfriend found out I was seeing him, and they said, girlfriend confirmed he has a girlfriend. They're still together. I'm like, What up? So how did you approach him? How did you tell him? Like, Dude, you've been lying to me? I found out, like, what's his rebuttal? What happened? So I reached out to him and I also so I actually and I'm not the type of girl that would go straight to his girlfriend because there was a connection. My friend had talked to her because she had talked to her three years ago. So we all connected and I was sending her the messages, pictures of him and I because I wanted this girl to realize, like, you're still dating a douchebag. He's like a complete a*****e. And like, Why are you doing this to yourself? So I reached out to her like us, three girls were talking, connecting everything times. He said he was gone to New York for work or here and there he was with her for her birthday. Times he lied to her. He was with me. But oh yeah. So I confronted him and he tries to, like, be like, No, we're not together. I'm like, No, it's confirmed. You are like, you're still with her. Try to deny the whole thing. I'm crazy. He's just like, made it seem like it was all my fault. Like, I'm the crazy one. Like, yeah, I feel like that's a pattern with men. When they get caught in something, they like to say, You're a psycho or she's psycho. How many times do you hear that women are psycho talking s**t about his girlfriend then saying things about me? Yeah, exactly. So I was like, I honestly after that never wrote him ever again. Like, I don't want to feed his ego anymore. So he said, and I'm like, never spoke to him after that. And then I met Tariq. So it was like, literally, it happened for a reason, but that was probably my craziest like dating situation. I'd never been going. They never went to that before. And that was that was definitely a little stab. And how did you guys meet? We met actually through my boss. Oh my. Yeah, I do real estate. You know, I have. I have a show called Selling Sunset, and he saw my show and he reached out to because he was a developer as well. He reached out to my boss, Jason Oppenheim, and was like, Hey, can you connect us? And yeah, I think she's beautiful. Did not know. They knew each other through like work stuff, personal stuff. And I thought, OK, Jason, like, I totally trust him and he connected us and yeah, crazy. And then all the signs were like it was going perfect. And then, yeah. Ding, ding, ding ding. He had a girlfriend of four years, psychopath. Well, there you have it, people. I hope you got your fix of dating and relationship advice today. Thank you so much, Jasmine Dustin, for coming in today. Make sure you guys follow her on Instagram at Jasmine Dustin. I love this. We did some flashbacks today of dating life. What else did we do? And we just kept talking today. Yeah, we Jasmine talked about her vibrators. Yeah, we had lots of good stuff today. Love her. I'm so happy she is such an open book and I love you, girls. It was so fun. We're having our girl talk. It's just, I love it, and that's what we're going to continue to do here on flashbacks. I'm Jessica Hall and I'm Heather Rae Young.
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