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So are we supposed to start the podcast? When I feel like that was a lot of good going into it, but I went super low. You know what prevents you from being a great clapper? My boobs? Yeah, that was getting a lot better. It's better. What's going on? How are you today? I'm great. Excellent. Really happy. I'm happy to be here with you to spend time with you. That's so nice. Even though you're so mean to me, that is such bulls**t. OK, I just have to say that we've gotten some comments that people are going back to the headband episode. Yeah, because it was horrific. Yes. And one comment, Jennifer, it's not her friend. Can she let me keep that? Here's the thing. Like, sometimes I think something so shocking happens to people like when I saw that you arrived to a room that you knew there were going to be three cameras on you and you had that headband on with hair hanging out of it. I was so shocked. And it was breathtaking and alarming and jarring, and I just thought. Wow. I mean, I know she doesn't give a s**t, but this is kind of on next level. So I thought if she doesn't give a s**t, why should I give a s**t? Yeah, that's probably true because most of the time I tell you something like, Hey, you have a camel toe. You look at me and you say, I don't care. So you've conditioned me, right? That you don't care, even if your, you know, jeans are right up defining a camel toe that is recognizable from the top of the Empire State Building. You've looked at me and like, I don't care. Quit looking at my twat. So I just assumed that me suggesting the headband looked like hammer dog s**t that you would say, I don't give a s**t. Let's record. So I just the daffy lips you do hater, yak mouth. So I didn't. Yeah, that would have been criticism that I would have. But now you're a victim of me when you're the offender, but whatever. All right. That's what's going on. What have you had it with? What's going on besides you picking on me and lying and saying, I mean to you? I called you last night just to tell you how much I loved you. You did. And that was so sweet, and I love you too. OK, all right. OK, so what I've had it with is people disciplining other people's children. For example, I was reading an article in the British Mirror where this sicko stopped just real quick. The last few times you've mentioned articles, it's like U.K. tabloid press since your a*s went viral. There is this where you frequently read Yes, I've gone completely British news because of the famous ness of my a*s. OK. All right. Receipt Percy. Well, you know, I watch BBC Two. I do too. OK, go on. We love you. U.K.. OK, go on. So they this woman was at a pub with her family. They'd been at the beach all day and her kids were giggling, recounting some stories. And the 65 year old man turned around and told her little child to shut up. I mean, I was. Jaw dropped by that, I mean, that is horrible. I just have had it with, I mean, I get like, we don't like playing peekaboo with kids and, you know, kids are obnoxious and all that, but we never like are mean to kids, right? I don't know. I might have just really boot up. Well, I'll tell you a time that a an adult kind of trolled my kids. So we went to an Oklahoma City Thunder vs. L.A. Lakers game at the Staples Center in L.A.. OK, we're sitting courtside right behind the Thunder, and we're so excited to be there. My kids are like full blown NBA obsessed, right? Vendors crushing L.A. So this was a while ago. Yes, were cheering, having a great time. My eldest son, Dylan in particular, is like a walking Wikipedia of NBA stats. So he's like in hog heaven. So he's cheering, jumping up and down and this a*****e like three seats over to Dylan, who at the time is like 14 or 15 years old and Dylan's like going, Yeah, let's go. You know, way to go, Russ. Come on thunder. I mean, just basic chance that she would here at a sporting event. This guy like loses his s**t and he goes, Oh yeah, Oklahoma City, f**k yeah. f**k that. Do you see all those flags up there? How many rings you got? How many championships you got. And he's like going off on Dylan and Dylan kind of like, I'm sitting down. I'm cheering, but I'm not as into it is Dylan Dylan's like kind of drops his jaw and he looks over at me and I'm like, Hey, bro, you're you're saying this to like a 15 year old. Do you feel like a f**kin tough guy now? And so then he kind of like, he calms down and then I just immediately evil. I'm the rest of the gang. Oh, for sure. I'm just sitting there like with my arms crossed. Just like, come on, like you messed with my cub right at a basketball game cheering for his team, which is what you're supposed to do as a fan. And this guy is acting like such a dick. It's unbelievable. And let me just say that this guy for sure has never played a game of basketball in his life. They're the worst ones. I feel like resting heart rate 130 140, possibly. And he's all wound up at a teenager. It was a big deal for us. Like we went to the Staples Center where we followed the team. Like we were so excited. And this guy, you know, is just such a dick. So I've experienced that before. However, I will say I've wanted to tell a lot of kids to shut up in person. I've wanted to tell a thousand kids to shut up in person, but I don't do it now. I don't have kids, right? And typically, especially with a smaller child like this situation with Dylan, sounds like he was a butt hurt loser. Period. Full stop. Because you're at a sporting event, you're supposed to be loud, right? But I think somebody that just. Goes bananas on a kid. The problem is not with the kid, if the kid's acting up, it's the parents problem and they're not taking care of it. Right? But in a situation where your kid's just being a normal kid, I just think that's horrible. Yeah, most of the time I'm a.. Kids, like in the instance where playgrounds are being taken over by pickleball players, right? I'm pro pickleball players, kids being a*****es on airplanes. I'm pro whatever we have to do to shut them up. In this instance, I'm going to be pro kids. But you would not even on a plane. If a kid kicked back the whole time, you would not say one word. You might. I would know I have, but you wouldn't be ugly. You wouldn't say, shut up. But I have had kids kicking me and I turn around and I say hi to my not kicking the back of my seat. I'm trying to take a nap, right? I think that's entirely appropriate, right? But I'm just saying, like you would never say, shut up, even to your own kids. I probably tell my kids to shut up before. I mean, I know, I know that you have and I've heard your time. I've heard you tell your kids, shut up and quit acting like dicks. I've actually heard that come out of your mouth, but it's more like I always like, I'll tell him, You're acting so weird. Stop. Oh no, I've heard. Shut up. You guys are dicks. I've heard. No, no, no, no. I for sure do that. But it's not like, I mean, maybe it is not like, Listen, listener, we're not like this sanctimonious. Like, of course, as a parent. And when you're around kids, you lose your temper sometimes, right? And it's like, Oh my God, you're driving me crazy. Shut up. That happens. That's normal. It's just this this concept that kids have to be around. Pleasantry all the time is total bulls**t. It's total bulls**t. You haven't lived by it. I haven't lived by. It's an impossible. It's impossible bar to parent by. I mean, it's absolutely impossible, right? But if somebody if I was at a bar and somebody tell my kid to shut up and mouth off, I mean, there's just no doubt, no doubt I'd probably end up in a fistfight. I'd like to see that. I don't think I'd be very good in a fistfight. I think I'm a lot of big talk. Yeah, but I think if somebody hit me, I would just be like crying in the corner. So, Janine, what have you had it with? I have had it with the absolutely psychotic. Hypocritical schizophrenic driving patterns of myself. I'm pretty bad about it, too. Let me give you an example, OK, I was on my way here to to record this podcast. I'm running a little late. I'm behind. I'm working at my other job and trying to drive did this job just for the permanent record. I want to say that I was here on time and you were like, Just so everybody, right? That right now. Jennifer Welch designs, pays everybody's payroll. So Jennifer Welch design? That's right. It was a pay day to day, and I had to be there. So anyway, I am driving here and there's a person that's making a left turn at an unprotected green light. So it's not a green arrow. It's just the green light. So the oncoming traffic can come and they have to turn when there's an opening, right? I immediately feel like the person that's making this left turn because I'm going straight is doing it on purpose, right to make me light and to piss me off. Right? I feel like, God damn it, you just have to take a f**king left turn and I'm in a huge hurry. And I think that they have literally this person that doesn't know me, right? That doesn't know that I'm behind them, correct? Is intentionally taking this left turn that takes a long time to take just to dick, but it's over personal. What about personal attack? What about that level of narcissism when it comes to driving? Another example is like I can. Somebody can be on their phone at a stoplight and I just simply don't use my phone when I'm in the car. I think it's selfish. I think, you know, all the accidents that can happen. I'm just like, I'm not using my phone in the car. So somebody is on their phone at a red light light turns green, three seconds pa*s. And so I'm laying on the horn. And then they're like, You know, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. And I'm like, Yeah, you know, get off your phone. I'm saying this on my head. You know, like f**kin schmuck. I mean, come on, let's go. If I'm the person that's in front of them and I'm like daydreaming, listening to a song, looking out and they have to honk at me, that complete opposite reaction. I'm like, Hey, calm down, cool your jets. It's not that big of a deal. It was just two to three seconds. I am a f**king psychopathic schizophrenic, hypocritical driver. Everything that I get irritated at, I do. Yeah, everything I do, I get irritated at when other people do it. So I've had it with the schizophrenic impulse psychotic ness of myself when driving automobiles. Now, I think that is relatable. This morning I was going downtown to the courthouse and exact same thing happened. The person in front of me was on their text. The lights were turning green, right? And they were sitting there. I blew my horn three times in four blocks. Yeah, so I mean, and then the next thing I know, I'm sliding into the other lane because I'm looking at something on my phone, which I'm super guilty of. I know you're not guilty of it, but I personally am the worst about using my phone. Like if I'm sitting at a stop sign, I do it all the time where somebody has honk at me, but it makes me crazy. Like, I want to give them the double birds, right? Tell them to go, f**k themselves. I don't feel like it's personal. As much as I feel like you're just a horrible human being. I somehow personalize the show, which is clearly narcissism. But here's another example like if there's a school zone and you have to slow down to 20, right? If the person in front of me slows down to 19 to 20 in my mind, I'm like, Oh, look at the show off, look at the rule follower. What a f**king dork. What a loser. Got 19 to 20 in a school zone. You just don't want to hit a kid, right? So then if I'm not in a hurry and I'm listening to a great song? Yeah. And then the school lights are on and I decide to be a rule follower. I think, Boy, am I just an upstanding citizen in this. I'm crushing this f**king school. I'm a f**king psycho. Yeah, I think driving brings out like really bad in all of us, especially the school zone, because if I'm in a hurry, I'm just like you. I am like topping it out about 30 furious at the person in front of me. Yeah, but if I'm not in a hurry, if I'm like running early to something, then I I'm the slowest person and I think I get the people behind me are in a hurry and hate my guts. I never think about other people's feelings when I'm driving. That's what I'm saying. Like, I was narcissism in that. Yeah, no, I do. Now let me just say, like, if I'm on the highway, I am not going to grandstand in the fast lane. I only use that for passing, right? I'm not going to be one of these people that does, you know, the speed limit in the fast lane. Talk about f**king dork who goes the speed limit in the fast lane on the f**king highway. Dorks and losers, right? No one on the planet had it, except I would think the person's got to be like old, like grandma. No, I. Asked these people in the slow lane and I look in, it's all types of people, it is it is what I love to blame should on older people. This is not the case because I've seen, you know, 80 year olds past me. So this is not the case. There are offenders stupidity across the age gap on this. This is not an old person problem. And here's what I don't understand about people that pass in the slow lane you're in the fast lane you're past in the slow lane. Is that not a moment of self-awareness? Apparently not. Apparently not. Like, I would think, Oh my God, I should probably get over. People are passing me from the slow lane, but now they just keep on keeping on. Well, I would like to welcome everybody to. I've Had It podcast. This is a podcast where we are getting to the deep, dark bottom of all the s**t that's wrong with people while also understanding that we are offenders. Complete hypocrites on basically every episode, every issue that we bring out. More than likely we do, but that's neither here nor there. Let us stay on top. This is not a psychological case study on the hosts of this podcast, right? This is just a psychological case study on the f**kery in the general public, whether we are participants or not. That's neither here nor right. OK, I'm Jennifer. I'm Angie. We call her pops, and I'm just going to say I do stand by that. She is the star of the show, even though there's lots of comments for you to be the star and Kylie. But you know how humble I am when I saw her, I saw every single one of those comments on Apple, on YouTube, on Tik Tok, on Twitter and Instagram. I saw them all. Do you screenshot them? I'm not. I'm not here to take a victory lap. I am here to say you are the star of our show. And I would also like to bring to the listeners attention that Kylie is here with us. Richard is here with us, Kylie, speaking of comments on social media. What's going on? You run, you run. I've had it. You're the one who made us go viral. What's going on? What is the beat on the ground? The beat that I want to focus on today? Yeah. Is Pump's and her lesbian ark. Oh, OK. Let's hear it. We got a tweet yesterday from at Shark Bit. I've had it podcast. Jennifer and her lesbian friend. Oh, our hot s**t. I love it. Oh my god. Inject that tweet into my veins. Read, tweet, read tweet. I'm going the second we finish recording this. I'm going on Twitter and I'm going to retweet it for sure. That is good stuff. That is a great tweet, Kylie. Great find. And yes, Jennifer and her lesbian friend are fire and hot s**t. OK, on your Tik Tok video about your lesbian wet dream. Oh gosh, okay. Tami McNeill comments. 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And today's guest is nothing further than confirmation as to what a big f**king deal and how hot s**t we are because he is definitely hot s**t. He's hot s**t. He's coming on our podcast. Our podcast is hot s**t. You're hot s**t. I'm hot s**t, Kylie. Such s**t. Richard's hot s**t. It's hot s**t. City hot. I've had it. Podcast Period Dot and a story, right? Without further ado, let me introduce the design expert and Emmy nominated host of Netflix Queer Eye. Let's welcome Bobby Berk to I've had it. Yay. OK, Bobby, welcome to. I've had it. How are you? Good. How are y'all? They're great. I love the y'all. It's my Texas roots coming out. Yeah, we're big. You get a couple drinks on me or on the phone with my mama and y'all really hear, Oh yeah, we we're in Oklahoma City right now and that's where we live. And so we are big offenders of the word, y'all. I'm a big deal. Well, I grew up in Texas and Missouri, so like right on each side of y'all. So. Well, Bobby, you know, I don't know if you know much about us, but this is a podcast where we are exposing everyday frustrations and everyday f**kery that happens with the general public and the normal laws, as you know, as I've had it. And so we just right out, right out of the gate, we want to hear what you've had it with. I mean, my biggest thing that I've had it with is people that are just unaware, you know, the people in that grocery store that when they go off to look for something, just leave their card in the middle of the aisle and the narrowest part they possibly can just thinking, Oh, it's fine, everyone can go to another aisle. You know, the people who are turning left on the road and there's a left turn lane, yet they've got their cars a*s in the middle lane. Still to be like. I can take up two lanes. So just people that are super, super unaware of everybody else around them, or maybe they are aware and they just don't give a f**k. And since you said earlier, I'll go ahead and get on the bus too. Yeah, no, this is this is something that is, I mean, a part of our mission statement. Here it I've had it podcast to expose and we call it breathtaking unawareness. It kind of takes your breath away when you see it. Like, what about the person in the grocery store, their carts in the middle and then they're bending over to get something? And there's four inches of ash showing you that you didn't, you know? Honestly, it depends on the ads that say, Japan, they are aware and they're very aware, right? I always think you've got to feel the air on your crack. Well, I would think that. But when I spot you having camel toe and I say you have camel toe, but there's no air in the camel toe, right? But there's a seam going up here. Valjean, that is a country song right there. They've got to feel the air on their craft. That's right. The Garfield Air on the crack with like their mama's wax. I'm I guess you're a good singer. Yes. All these talents, that is impressive. Yeah, I think for me, I'm just like, I'm such a hyper aware person, like too much. So I actually wish I wasn't because I sometimes drive myself to the point of insanity by being super hyper aware. Like I remember years ago when my husband and I would live and lived in New York, like I'm a very fast walker, and we would just be strolling along on our day off and I would still be, you know, on an L.A. run, a New York walk. And my husband would be like, I don't. Why are you walking so fast? We don't have anywhere to be, and I'm like, Well, you know what? There are 18 million people behind me that do have somewhere. Right, right. It will not be the person that makes them miss their tray, right? Love that. Now I have. I'm with you. I have an I'm an interior designer as well. And so maybe it's just like our attention to detail and everything. I'm so overtly aware of what I'm doing and if it could impede on somebody else's space or and then if I happen to be a violator, I'm immediately like, Oh my God, I'm so sorry. Like overly overly apologizing to the person for the violation on them, huh? Totally. I go for a whole Canada. So speaking of like unaware, there's a really funny story that so about a year and a half ago. My oldest son, he was moving to Syracuse to be a freshman at Syracuse University, so I called Pops and this is the greatest thing about paps like she's a friend that you can call and say, Hey, I'm moving Dylan to Syracuse. Do you want to come and help? And she's like, Oh my God, absolutely. I would absolutely love to do it. And when she says she would love to help, she means it. And then when you get her there, she's an incredible helper. She'll bark, she'll clean with a smile and she's like, Oh my god, Dylan, I'm so excited to see you. She's a former sorority girl, so it's like, Oh my God, this is so great. This is amazing. So we're moving into the dorm and we go downstairs to the male room because I'd ship some stuff from Amazon to arrive. So we go downstairs and there's this little like probably junior at Syracuse little whippersnapper. I can't believe you're telling us. And I said, Hey, I need to pick up something for Dylan Welch's room six for nine. And she, like, looked at pumps in me and she goes, Are you guys students? And we're like, No, obviously you're like, but thank you. So. So then then she's like, Well, only the student can pick up the package, and I'm like, OK, so we turn around. It perhaps is gone from I'm here to help. Rah rah to impart, Let's go Dylan. And then all of a sudden she activates pumps savage mode, and she goes, Maybe if that girl would quit being a c**t and get some awareness should realize that we weren't in fact, students. And I'm like falling over on the campus of Syracuse, crying, laughing because she's just like completely giving me whiplash from like she's excited and, you know, invigorated and rah rah. Let's go orange Syracuse to call in college students and students cuts just cause, you know, I think we're going to be fast friends, too, because that that is that is a word. I use a lot in my car in L.A.. Yes. Oh, I bet. A friend of mine was visiting the other day and in the car with me for quite some time. She was like, You know what? I just didn't realize there were so many stupid cuts and you pass it a stupid c**t, you know? Oh, I have my 18 month old, my youngest child who was 18 months. We were going into the doctor's office and I was I stopped to let people go and he goes, Go stupid, go. And I was like, Oh gosh, she's heard me say that, calling everybody stupid. I mean, he was just so happy to call him stupid and barely could talk, but able to say stupid. Yeah, I I just. Idiots on the road again, it's just people that they're just they think they're the only person on the road and that nobody else has anywhere to be but them. Yeah. The other day I was on the way to a doctor's appointment and I there was a car broken down on the right lane. So I was trying to get over in the left lane and also to get out of the way of people who were trying to turn right at the street before. And there was this woman with a full car length in front of her, making it impossible for me to scoot over in the left lane. So I did the polite little bit like, you know, notice that you have a whole car, but I just kind of went like, you know. Hi, can you move up a little bit? And she's like, does one of these numbers in her rearview mirror? And so I was like her and she was like, you know, the duck in the mirror. And I was like, f**k you, b***h. So she was like, and she gets out of her car. And so, of course, I instantly pick up my phone and then start recording her and she's like, I'm calling the police. What? Because I hope that you will. They called you a stupid b***h. What am I call the police? Your your your body was like, Please, please do call the police. And I made sure I was loud and she's on the phone with 9-1-1. I can hear her talking with them. I was. I call the police. So that way when they get here, they can see that you are filing a false f**king 9-1-1 call because somebody honked at you wouldn't hurt your feelings. I'm like, Are you for real? And I and the person on the other line clearly was like, Man, what's going on? And she was like, No, no, no, it, you know, he's being violent. You just don't get me. This is what b***h right there like hard enough out of the way to just go to my appointment. But she made me late. This is what we call a teddy baby. I mean, this is a teddy baby. She was not paying attention to how much space she had. She's spatially unaware, which is unacceptable. You reminder her, you know, let's nudge forward, and then all of a sudden she's a victim and then just the histrionics right up, calling the police so back to the word c**t. Really quick. I just want to revisit this because in I pick that one up from Cannes, the British can't. Yes, that's what I was bringing up is in the U.K., they use it in a way that pumps and I and maybe you can join us in this. We want to make it more mainstream, right? United States. So my husband and I were in Hyde Park, and he has. A breathtaking level of lack of self-awareness, it drives me f**king crazy. Same with my husband. So we're walking in the part of the sidewalk is for pedestrians. The other part is for bicyclists, and the British are f**king psychos about their bikes. Right? So Josh kind of steps over into the bike lane, right, as the cyclist is coming by and cyclists immediately calls Josh a f**king kite. And I was like, I love this city. I love this country. What a move here. Long live the king, long live the queen. What do I need to do? I immediately was like, I f**king love these people. I'm not. I didn't think like, Oh, I've got to defend Josh. I was like, He has a card. I appreciate that. It was a totally like unaware move on his part. I loved it. 10. I remember the very first day of auditions he kept using. Can't, can't discount that. And finally, I like pulled him aside and I was like, Girl, like, you have got to stop saying c**t. So. This is not the UK like that is that is a word like at that point, like we were doing auditions like the whole panel we were in front of with all female and I was like, some of them might be cool with it, but some of them might be getting really offended. And I'm like, You're you're cute. Little British accent only goes so far when you use embryos. I love that, OK? I want to talk about next something that when I read your bio that I think is super duper interesting. So you were raised in the Bible belt and a very religious culture. And obviously we live in the Bible belt and I was raised with like no religion at all, which is very strange for somebody. I know it was very, very awesome, but lucky you to not have, like been an alternator guilt and like, All right, we were impressed upon you as a child. Yes. But one thing that I, I have always found so disturbing living here. So I had a friend about 15 years ago and I didn't have kids at the time, but she did. And it was very obvious to me that her son was gay and he was like 10 or 11. But she was pretty religious and it was kind of overtly religious. So she said to me, one time we're having coffee and she's like, You know, I've just told him, If you ever think you're gay, that's just the devil. That's just Satan. And I said to my friend, That's kind of child abuse to say that, like, you shouldn't say that to him, like threatening him with that. I think that's really damaging that all the time growing up. But yeah, really, I want you to share with our listener a little bit about your childhood and your journey. And one question because I want to ask it now, in case I forget after you went through what you went through in your childhood. Do you think that your homosexuality saved you from that kind of life that you could have had? And you can get to that answer as you tell us about your story. Mm-Hmm. Did it saved me from still being at Mount Vernon with like nine kids and a wife I hate? Absolutely. Oh lord. Yeah, I mean, I grew up assemblies of God, you know, and I categorize that as like the worst of the worst. And they're the tongue talkers, right? Exactly, exactly. They're there the the Pentecostal denomination that they even think Baptists are going to hell. Oh wow. Mormons are going to hell, Presbyterians, Lutherans, anybody. That is not the exact flavor of Christian that they are is going to hell. Right. It's like it's crazy, like I remember growing up and like wanting to go to church with a friend who went to a Baptist church and my parents were like, Oh my god, no, you can't go to a Baptist church. They will indoctrinate you to. And you'll end up in hell. Right? They they dance. No, it's so it's just again, you are made to believe that only the way that that preacher up there in your parents teach you, that is the only way you will have eternal life. That is the only way you will not burn in hell. Even the people who are also Christians, you know, per se, even the way they do, it is going to send you to hell. So it's it doesn't shock me at all that evangelicals are like the biggest magazine out there because young age, they are taught to believe what that preacher says is the only truth, right? It doesn't matter if some other church is like, Oh, well, maybe this guy that's married to like a prostitute and a stripper and like, has, you know, done all these other crazy things? Maybe he's not the messiah, you know, maybe a good Christian president, but no, it's they are brainwashed to only believe what their denomination tells them. So it's win. Back in 2016, everyone was like, Oh, there's no way he's going to wear what is going to wear. I'm like, Oh, he's going to wear is going to win because I grew up in that and that mindset around those people and they believe they're brainwashed from a young age. And I guess you didn't grow up in church. So you want this. But people that are listening to grow up in church, it's oh, you got to have faith, right? So I'll make you question anything. You're bad. Oh, no, you don't have faith. Say, you're that. You're on, you're you're on your way to hell. If you say what? What amazes me? So obviously I was I grew up in the suburbs of Oklahoma City, so I was like, I'm probably still on so many prayer warrior lists, but I was like prime for evangelicals to recruit because that's a huge part of their religion is the recruiting aspect of it. And so I tried because I wanted to fit in because all of my friends were like super Bible thumpers and, you know, it was fellowship of Christian athletes. And I tried around like middle school high school, but I was never like, truly indoctrinated. And so if you weren't brainwashed as a child? Right. So I approach most religions the same way people approach Greek mythology. They all equally sound kind of ridiculous, you know, like Noah and been nine hundred years old kangaroos. So that was that was Methuselah, and he was nine nine nine. But what amazes me about it as a non-religious person is how much focus is put on others, either recruiting others to join or who's Bobby Feckin, who's perhaps f**king it's always it's never seems to be about how do I make myself a better person and mind my own f**king business? It is the biggest busybody misery loves company. Who's f**king who? Club I've ever seen in my life. And I f**kin had it. I have had it total freedom of speech and freedoms. If you're a white Christian, right, and everybody else know everybody else is mere existence is coming for their freedom. Right, right. Resisting me. Being loving someone, being able to marry who I want. That's not coming for your freedom. That's exactly right. Yeah, that's it. Karev is a sponsor of today's episode. Jennifer, as you know, about two years ago, I had an aha moment when it came to my health and wellness routine. Oh, I remember care of is a subscription service. 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Tell him about the time that we met. OK, so the first time I met Jennifer, she was coming over to my house and I was redoing like the ground floor woke. No, she wanted it. I wanted it to be see the gay agenda, see how they push it right? I would be her wife, Tamara. I am. I am really trying with this gay agenda. Kylie and I are with Pops. But anyway, Percy. OK, so she walks in my house and I hadn't met her before. And she comes in and she's like, I said, I don't give a s**t. You look just like your pictures. Sorry, I won't interrupt. I said, I don't really care. Like, just do what you think. I'm not really into it. I wouldn't even notice, probably. And she goes, Well, I can tell that because you have silk flowers in your entry hall, on your dining room table and then you have a picture. The only thing worse than silk flowers is pictures of silk flowers, and you've got both right here in the front room. And I was like, head over heels in love immediately or word art. A word art is terrible. It is a red flag. I walked into my desert home the other day and again we Airbnb it out when we're not using it. And I walk in and like, this house has been an architectural digest like it is very tastefully done right. Walk in the kitchen and on the ledge above the stove. There is a word art that says, laugh at it, somebody some guest had brought and put it up there, and the management company just just left it there. Thank you. Part of the decor, even though they're there multiple times a week and should know better. And I literally I walked in and I asked, I was like, Oh, that big gasp like you and I went over and I grabbed it. I threw it in the trash. No, it's weird art. I cannot stand. I hate the hashtag blessed or the use of the word. Blessed are blessed. Blessings it, except unless it's in the sentence. Bless your heart. That's I love that. That's correct. Which is also go f**k yourself, as the three of us know. But when people say, I just we are so very blessed, I'm just like, Shut the f**k up. I've had it where and word art is awful. OK, had it or hit it, hit it. Meaning you will love it, Bobby. Starbucks hit it. Yeah. Although I think yesterday was the first time I'd had it in months, I don't think a lot of coffee anymore. You know, I've kind of moved on to Celsius, which is probably not great either. But the caffeinated like, yeah, it's an energy drink. OK. But I wouldn't put it in the same category as like a Red Bull or a rock star or something like it doesn't smell like drunken desperation, a non white trash energy drink. Yeah, yeah. Like energy drink. A great yeah. Yeah, yeah. If you drink enough of them, your pops is going to have one more. And she's just going to be our all right. I need to buy some. OK, Bobbi had it or hit it influencers at it, and I've had it. I've had it. You know, there are. There are some. There are some good ones out there. The ones I've happened, though, are the ones that produce these. So. Oh, really? The age of videos that they try to pass off is real on. I'm like, Are you that big of an idiot or do you just think everyone else is that big of a hit you? You've got to believe this bulls**t, right? I think they do believe the bulls**t because I have a daughter in college, and I mean, she buys all that s**t hook, line and sinker. I've kind of I've had it with influencers, but I'm also a part of the problem because I hate follow a few. So, yeah, I don't I don't think I follow. I follow a couple. I do. I don't had it or hit it. Karate chopped pillows. Oh. I had it say I had it, although, although you will see me often on Queer Eye doing some karate chop pillows, but that's just because we need a shot of me doing something, and that's the quickest and easiest thing to do before the hero walks through the door. And it looks very designer. I'll tell you what I've started to do. I just did it installed before I came here, so I chop because I started designing in the 90s. And so that's when I started my career. I'm much younger than perhaps if you were curious. Four years is not so much. I chop and then I'm like, No, that's out now. And then I do a side chop. So you can add that to career. I now do a top chop, side chop, and then it makes the perfect like I had to install the perfect little starfish. Yes, it's like your yeah. And then push it a little bit. So it's not too choppy. So you can add that kind of and you can. You could you could put a jazz hand at the end. Do you love it? Okay. Had it or hit it as we head into gay Pride Month rainbow capitalism. Oh, I mean, it's hard for me to say had it because I've definitely benefited from that rainbow capitalism. But I definitely think that there are some companies that should learn that being an ally isn't just slapping a rainbow on something once every when it's, you know, like Disney did where they, you know, back to backs the, you know, against the don't say gay bill. It's about activism year round, not just once a month or once a year. That's true. That's true. Are the intentions always great? No, I wasn't. The intentions are just to make money. But I think visibility is so, so important. And I think that rainbow capitalism gives people that hope they know. And at least, I mean, they're making money off of everything. And let's I mean, we live in the biggest capitalistic market ever. Let's make sure we're making if they're going to do it, let's make money off of the good fight instead of just being racist pricks, you know, like, I'm far more down with with that, I kind of when I'm with you that I think there are kids that, you know, like the friend I told you who was telling her kid that it's, you know, if you're thinking about being gay, it's Satan like that. It's some sort of choice that seeing that and knowing, OK, wait, something's wrong with my mom. I'm not the problem. It's this archaic viewpoint that is the problem. So I think that that can really help. Yeah, I do as well. And you know, when I work with these companies and during pride and stuff, I always make them do a large donation to a charity that I work with. I'm like, If you're going to make money off of us, you need to give that money back to us. I agree. I think that's really good. I think that's smart. Bobbie, I mean, I just feel like, I mean, I feel like we f**king crushed it. I feel like this was a slam dunk. I feel like we solved so many f**king problems today. We have the most amazing charisma, uniqueness, nerve and talent. Well, you know what that means? Oh, see you next Tuesday. I love that I'm on RuPaul's Drag Race. She's always like, I want to see your charisma, uniqueness, nerve and talent. And for like 20 seasons. No one ever realized that she's saying, Cut y'all. Like five six years ago, people finally started talking about it like, Oh my god, all these years she's been saying, C'mon, everyone was like, Yeah, what's yeah? You? I have to say, I'm a huge Queer Eye fan. Huge. And I'll tell you what. Like, I was thinking about, why do I love that show so much? Because I'm not a crier at movies or anything. I'm hard pressed to cry. But when I watch, but when I watch those episodes, like the palpable change from I don't like myself, I'm not comfortable in my own skin. I don't think I'm good enough. Like, it's palpable by the end that they do, and it's such a feel good that I kind of get teary a little bit. Tell our listener, I think you have a book coming out. Can you tell our listener about your new book? Yeah. So my new book comes out in September, and it's available for pre-order now and it's called Right at home. You know, for years people have been like, Oh, you should do a design book or you should do a memoir. And like, when I do things, I want to do things to help people and design books are beautiful. Don't get me wrong, but design books are expensive to produce, right? Thus, they're expensive to sell. So, you know, pretty coffee table design books not everybody can afford and pretty design book doesn't always necessarily really help people. So I decided to write a book about the intersection of mental health and design and about how your home really affects every aspect of your life. And we dive into color theory and and light and, you know, function way and then and organization, and we really talk about how each and everything in your home. It really does affect your mental health. You like your home, is like your phone charger. If you don't plug your phone in at night or that cord has a short in it, your phone's not going to make it through the night. Stay because I didn't get fully charged. Your home, your charger, you've got to get fully charged when you're at home, so that way you can make it through life. Right. And that's what the book is all about, teaching people how to figure out what their style is and how to be OK with the fact that your style is your own and it doesn't have to look like a magazine, it doesn't have to be what designers say it is. It's about the things putting things in your home that make you happy. I love that. I completely agree and I get interviewed, you know, from time to time by interior design magazines, and they'll say, What are the hottest trends? I hate that question. I hate that question because number one, it's a trend, so I don't want to promote it because it's not going to be and for very much longer. And secondly, I always tell my clients, let's do what looks good and feels good for you. Like, that's what's going to look best in this situation. So I'm so glad that you're addressing that because I think so many people, when it comes to projecting their personality and how they feel onto their home, it's very emotional. And, you know, we're kind of interior designer slash psychologists slash marriage counselor, which is why I don't take a lot of individual personal loans. Yes. I mean, and you know, you're guiding these people through this thing. And so it is it is a journey which I've had it with the journeys. But that's that was a different episode. But I'm so glad that you're doing that. I cannot wait to get it. I know I'm excited. Bobby, I cannot tell you how much I loved having you on and how much your personal story through, like from your upbringing to being such an incredibly intelligent and engaging and great advocate for men, women, boys, girls that have gotten out of an abusive religious situation and that you call it as such because I believe that it is and that you're helping other people that are in that situation by saying, Hey, you can get out of this and you can have an amazing life. And I just I feel that in my bones and it makes me so happy. Thank you. Lots of admiration, not just for your talent, but your story and how you've overcome it. It's really impressive. Yes. Bobby, thank you so much for telling us what you've had it with. And we are going to be much better people in the grocery stores with our shopping carts. Yeah, because I'm kind of an offender on that. I was thinking. Bobby, thank you so, so much. Have a wonderful week and good luck with your book and the new season of Queer Eye. We're big fans. Thank you. Fun to have you on your blast. Thanks so much. Bye bye. OK. The hot s**t tour just continues. I mean, he's the best. I love him. I personally like so much how outspoken he is. So I really love that a love him. And this is so fun to have such a such guy on our pod. So cool. I just really like him. He's fun and sweet, and he's great at what he does. Please go give us a five star review and we are passionate about supporting marginalized people. If you don't like that, go listen to a different podcast. We're not for you. OK, you're in the wrong, wrong place. Follow us. Follow us on Patron. That's what we're talking about the pop songs feature, which is OK, whatever. All right. Anyway, we will see you next Tuesday, next Tuesday by listener. Had it with that. I'm John Glover. 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